This mum is awesome!!! Check out this real eBay listing on eBay Australia!
This mum is awesome!!! Check out this real eBay listing on eBay Australia!
coconut / 8305 posts
I think her selling the tickets are GREAT!....
How she talks about/to her daughter & friends is disgusting. "bitchy little faces......like trollops...."
Maturity comes in many different facets, including how you talk about your children when they do dumb things. Degrading them to everyone (thank you internet) is not maturity.
GOLD / pomegranate / 3938 posts
This is awesome! I love anything and everything that comes out of Australia.
Best line: "YOU all LIED to us about sleep overs so you could hang like little trollops at an older guys HOUSE????? Pffft!! I find it HIGHLY amusing that you girls think you invented this stuff. Tricks like this on OUR parents is how HALF of you were conceived .....And why a lot of your friends DONT have an address to send that Fathers day card to!!!"
pineapple / 12526 posts
I think her selling them is fantastic. However, I think her language and behavior is a little ridiculous.
grapefruit / 4770 posts
Holy Moly!! You know, with all this entitlement going on with young folk, I think her behavior and straight talk is totally on point. At some point these young girls and guys need to get a wake up call. It seems they were at older guy's house? You can get raped, kidnapped, killed, pregnant, or just have a good time. Gotta be responsible folks!
coconut / 8305 posts
@dc yoga bee: Meh... I was those girls once & I can say that doing such things & putting yourself in situations for older guys (or any guy for that matter) is many times (not all) about self worth & needing affirmation.... something being called a "slut" by my mom did not do, & can likely guarantee being called "bitchy" & "trollops" won't do for these girls either.
Want your kids to act dignified & mature, then you should speak to them in such ways.
grapefruit / 4770 posts
@runsyellowlites: I guess I see it differently because I see girls and guys who end up in these situations and then end up in our SVU unit as victims of such crimes. Totally not saying it will happen to these girls, but the attitude that it won't happen to me or doesn't happen around these parts is beyond inaccurate. I've seen it one too many times, and more often than not it was with teenage girls just wanting to hang out with older guys.
honeydew / 7589 posts
@runsyellowlites: I completely agree. Selling the tickets is the "wake up call". Talking to your children is such a disrespectful and immature way is modeling that sort of language and attitude to them.
I would have respected this woman so much more if she had been calm and collected.
coconut / 8305 posts
@dc yoga bee: Oh I know it happens, and know it happens alot (I don't think I said anything that pointed to otherwise)... I work with a home for women that almost all have a history of rape/other sexual abuse.
What I'm saying is this approach is almost never effective in getting the girl to change her course. If she doesn't feel dignified from her parents, where she is should be most protected & affirmed, she's certainly not going to act or expect it from others & is likely more apt to put herself in harmful situations seeking it.
honeydew / 7589 posts
@dc yoga bee: I completely agree that the girls behavior was dangerous and wrong and that they needed a wake up call - but that's what selling the tickets was. There is no need to use such disrespectful and demeaning language - that teaches them nothing.
cantaloupe / 6692 posts
Wow! Glad she is selling the tickets and what she said is funny, but it isn't the most mature things to say.
I got myself in those kinds of situations as a teen and I would have wanted my dad to handle it the same way.
Can't believe how high they are selling for! I'm sure they are glad!
grapefruit / 4819 posts
They're up to $25,000 now and the auction still has four days left to go! Even here in Australia, where things are about four times the cost of things in America, that's insane.
I agree with the mother's actions 100% but I wish she had not resorted to name calling. I would have much preferred the language of 'you are acting like a _______, and that is not how I raised you' etc. I am all for harsh truths when necessary but there is a way to go about it and I think this went that little step too far.
Regardless though, I hope this is a wake up call for her daughter!
ETA: I just read it again and the thing that's bothering me is that the mum put herself on her daughter's level. She is arguing with her as though she herself is a teenager, rather than coming at it from a more mature, I'm the parent, perspective. It almost sounds like the gloating a 15 yr old would do if they got the better of someone.... That's what's bothering me more than anything I think.
pomegranate / 3003 posts
I agree with what she's doing, but I'm not crazy about the language.
I wonder what she plans to do with the money she gets for the tickets....
Man, I'm really not looking forward to when DD tries to pull on a fast one on me, as a teen. I was queen of the well orchestrated lie, so I'm not sure she'll be so successful....
pineapple / 12053 posts
idea of it is great, but the language is a little extreme. it's a wake up call, but i think i would have been way pissed/lesson learned with the selling of the tickets. if my mom spoke to me like that, i would have LOST it!
side note: what was the original cost of the tickets? for $25K, i would have sold those tickets anyway!
pineapple / 12053 posts
@Ree723: yes! that's how i felt. i like that she's not a friend, but her mom, but then speak to her like it!
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21628 posts
I would sell the tickets too, but I'm not a fan of public shaming.
pomelo / 5820 posts
I love that she's selling the tickets, and I don't mind that she's calling out her daughter's behavior. I don't like how immature she comes off, though. I also think she could have done without calling her daughter and her friends names. It kind of negates the whole sentiment!
grapefruit / 4817 posts
@Leialou: Yup. I hate public shaming and don't think parents should ever call their children names like that. Ask my MIL how she felt about being called a slut by her mother growing up for minor offenses. Lots of resentment 40 years later. Selling the tickets was a fantastic idea, but I hate name calling.
grapefruit / 4819 posts
Maybe I'm missing something, but I guess I don't really see it as public shaming. She didn't name her daughter, include any pictures, or provide any revealing details, so the only way others would know about this is if the daughter herself told people what her mum had done.
Like I said in my previous post, I think the mother's words were very immature and I don't agree with that aspect, but I could totally see myself doing something like this if the situation warranted it....although my words would be more like 'due to my daughter's inability to treat her family with respect, we will no longer be needing these concert tickets'. I think it hammers the message home that there are boundaries and if you cross them, there will be consequences.
GOLD / pineapple / 12662 posts
@Ree723:
Boundaries crossed = Consequences. Govern Yourselves Accordingly!
Works for me!
pomegranate / 3388 posts
I agree with others who like the idea but dislike the language. While I am a fan of strong discipline, I hope I never talk to my daughter like this.
coconut / 8475 posts
Her language is inappropriate at some points, but I agree with the premise. This is a win in my book!
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