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I think her selling the tickets are GREAT!....

How she talks about/to her daughter & friends is disgusting. "bitchy little faces......like trollops...."

Maturity comes in many different facets, including how you talk about your children when they do dumb things. Degrading them to everyone (thank you internet) is not maturity.

Awesome!

Wow!

I think her selling them is fantastic. However, I think her language and behavior is a little ridiculous.

I like the idea, but not the language used...

Holy Moly!! You know, with all this entitlement going on with young folk, I think her behavior and straight talk is totally on point. At some point these young girls and guys need to get a wake up call. It seems they were at older guy's house? You can get raped, kidnapped, killed, pregnant, or just have a good time. Gotta be responsible folks!

@runsyellowlites: I guess I see it differently because I see girls and guys who end up in these situations and then end up in our SVU unit as victims of such crimes. Totally not saying it will happen to these girls, but the attitude that it won't happen to me or doesn't happen around these parts is beyond inaccurate. I've seen it one too many times, and more often than not it was with teenage girls just wanting to hang out with older guys.

@dc yoga bee: Oh I know it happens, and know it happens alot (I don't think I said anything that pointed to otherwise)... I work with a home for women that almost all have a history of rape/other sexual abuse.

What I'm saying is this approach is almost never effective in getting the girl to change her course. If she doesn't feel dignified from her parents, where she is should be most protected & affirmed, she's certainly not going to act or expect it from others & is likely more apt to put herself in harmful situations seeking it.

Wow! Glad she is selling the tickets and what she said is funny, but it isn't the most mature things to say.
I got myself in those kinds of situations as a teen and I would have wanted my dad to handle it the same way.

Can't believe how high they are selling for! I'm sure they are glad!

They're up to $25,000 now and the auction still has four days left to go! Even here in Australia, where things are about four times the cost of things in America, that's insane.

I agree with the mother's actions 100% but I wish she had not resorted to name calling. I would have much preferred the language of 'you are acting like a _______, and that is not how I raised you' etc. I am all for harsh truths when necessary but there is a way to go about it and I think this went that little step too far.

Regardless though, I hope this is a wake up call for her daughter!

ETA: I just read it again and the thing that's bothering me is that the mum put herself on her daughter's level. She is arguing with her as though she herself is a teenager, rather than coming at it from a more mature, I'm the parent, perspective. It almost sounds like the gloating a 15 yr old would do if they got the better of someone.... That's what's bothering me more than anything I think.

idea of it is great, but the language is a little extreme. it's a wake up call, but i think i would have been way pissed/lesson learned with the selling of the tickets. if my mom spoke to me like that, i would have LOST it!

side note: what was the original cost of the tickets? for $25K, i would have sold those tickets anyway!

I would sell the tickets too, but I'm not a fan of public shaming.

@Leialou: Yup. I hate public shaming and don't think parents should ever call their children names like that. Ask my MIL how she felt about being called a slut by her mother growing up for minor offenses. Lots of resentment 40 years later. Selling the tickets was a fantastic idea, but I hate name calling.

Maybe I'm missing something, but I guess I don't really see it as public shaming. She didn't name her daughter, include any pictures, or provide any revealing details, so the only way others would know about this is if the daughter herself told people what her mum had done.

Like I said in my previous post, I think the mother's words were very immature and I don't agree with that aspect, but I could totally see myself doing something like this if the situation warranted it....although my words would be more like 'due to my daughter's inability to treat her family with respect, we will no longer be needing these concert tickets'. I think it hammers the message home that there are boundaries and if you cross them, there will be consequences.

@Ree723:

Boundaries crossed = Consequences. Govern Yourselves Accordingly!

Works for me!

Her language is inappropriate at some points, but I agree with the premise. This is a win in my book!