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Oh man, thinking of it that way makes me want like 5! I love love love big family dinners/get togethers....but I think we'll stick to 2 or 3

True, but losing all the baby weight over and over again is no joke. For me anyway!

I love this! For our family, cousins get counted into the mix, too!

This is how I think about it too. My SO had never thought of it like this though and when I pointed out that BABY #3 would eventually grow up to be CHILD/TEEN/ADULT #3 he was kinda shocked and started questioning if he wanted a 3rd. I would like to go through that newborn stage again, its so wonderful and goes soo fast!! But I'm not sure I want a 3rd child.

DH is always talking like this... this is how he's trying to convince me to keep my options open for a 3rd. He loves envisioning big family dinners, grandchildren playing at our feet, yada yada yada... but I also told him that as much as we dream, things may not end up that way! We'll certainly try our best to keep our children close and maintain a strong nuclear family, but life is not full of guarantees.

This is cool. Yeah, the baby stage is fleeting. Right now, my kid is almost 6 and I would rather put a pause button on him now, rather than when he was a baby. Babies are cute, but kindergarten kids are so much fun! I would love to be in this stage again at least one more time.

waah, I want like a million

@Running Elley: @rachiecakes: @hilsy85: same!! My parents had six kids, now with the three oldest married all with kids if their own- our holidays are full of people! And I wouldn't change a thing! I love it so much... And in that sense it makes me want just as many. But the newborn phase scared me so much. Birth was traumatic, and not getting sleep for a year was really hard. I told DH I wish I could skip the first year with the next kid(s).

@Andrea: hahaa so true. My mom said after the fourth, the weight stuck. Sadly she hasn't ever been able to get rid of it.

@Running Elley: lol!

That's why we want 4-5:) I want to have big holidays and grand kids and I want to see my kids graduate high school and get married and all that:))

I better get cracking..I want a lot more!

That's how we think of it! I come from a large family so we want the same for our family.

That's how I think about it, and it makes me want 3-4! The financial implications of that many kids holds my husband back though. We'll see!

I heard this somewhere a few weeks ago and it really changed my perspective. I still don't think I'd want more than 3 (DH) wants 4, but it made me feel a little differently about the newborn stage.

This makes me want 4-5 kids. I want a huge crazy Thanksgiving table, but being pregnant with the third while trying to chase the other two around, I am DONE! We will be done after this baby. I can't do another first trimester....

But this is only good if you enjoy big, noisy, family gatherings! My husband and I both get overwhelmed by big gatherings so, this doesn't work so well for us. I do like the thought of more than 3 of us at the thanksgiving table but figure if we want more than 3,we'll just do what we do every year, invite our friends who dot have family in town to have dinner with us.

But remember when the kids are grown they will most likely have spouses and their own kids at that table too! And our family always has friend s at the table too So I think we're still ok with two. Childhood is long enough, and I don't want to be outnumbered!

I think about the grown child and that's why I just want one.

Big families can be fun, but they can also be a major pita! My grandma had 10 kids! Of the 10 (2 died early), 4 have serious issues! It's also harder to get everyone together once they start getting married and starting families of their own.
Dh has 4 siblings and it's so hard to get everyone together for the holidays. Hasn't happened at all since we've been married!

Although, here's something to consider if you want big family holidays: on top of being able to afford to raise a bunch of kids, make sure you can afford a big-ish house for when the grandkids come along. Or, at least a house with a big open basement for them to tear around in.
Farmer Man comes from a family of 9 kids and so far *only* 4 of those kids have SOs and 3 have kids. There are only 6 grandkids so far, the oldest ones are 4, and that house is busting at the seams when we're all together, it's CRAY-CRAY!
There are 10 kids in my family, but only 3 married and 5 (soon to be 7) grandkids, but I can't tell you anything about what it's like to get together for holidays because we literally have never all spent a holiday together. Which is fine with me, I'd much rather hang with DH's family, as much as they drove me a little nuts sometimes. But it just goes to show that big, jolly family reunions vary from family to family. Let's just say that my family is a *bit* more dysfunctional than Farmer Man's.