So I know this is a totally ridiculous poll. DH went to Target yesterday and I asked him to get a gift bag for a baby shower gift for a friend. Said friend is having a boy. He knows this. He comes back with a bright purple bag. He said it was the cheapest option.
It's not even the right size (a whole different issue) so i can't use it anyway, but it got me thinking why I wouldn't use it for a boy. Would you? I don't want it to look like we put no effort and just reused a bag or something. Regardless I will save the bag and use it another time. This is a completely silly thing to mull over...but now I'm genuinely curious as to what other would do!
wonderful kiwi / 23653 posts
Eh, I'd used it. The gift gets taken out of the bag anyway...
wonderful cherry / 21504 posts
If I already had the bag and was reusing it, I might use purple but it would depend on the friend too. But if I was buying a new one, I would not spend money on a purple bag for a boy shower. Which I agree is totally silly.
However I still have 100 gift bags from my shower and baby presents after so I’ll never need to buy a baby shower gift bag again. even better I was team green for my first so most of the bags were neutral.
pomelo / 5257 posts
If it's not the right size, that seems like a bigger issue. The color wouldn't bother me. I have a boy, and I don't think I'd even notice if someone gave me a purple bag vs. blue or green or whatever. But then I also bought pink sleep sacks for my son because they were cheaper so...I guess I'm your husband, haha.
kiwi / 543 posts
I would use it and not worry about it at all. (size issue aside).
That being said, my husband's favorite color is purple, and I don't think if it as being a really "girly" color. Pink on the other hand, I would not use.
kiwi / 598 posts
Purple wouldn’t be my first choice (nor for a girl), but if it was cheaper by a lot I would. I’d pick up navy tissue paper for a gender-neutral palette.
grapefruit / 4492 posts
I wouldn't be able to send my husband on that errand. Although I think he would pick a pretty (usually gender neutral bag), I love gift wrapping way too much to let him do any part of that.
I would save the purple bag for a teacher gift or house warming or birthday or something; probably wouldn't use it for a shower though because the cute bags are too cute not to buy.
grapefruit / 4278 posts
As the receiver, I would probably assume you re-used a bag. I almost never buy gift bags and have a giant box of them that I pull from for any event. I usually write a message in a note card that I got in a pack from the dollar spot at Target instead of buying a $4 card also. I'm all for budget gift wrapping.
persimmon / 1171 posts
I would over compensate with cute tissue paper but would use the bag. I think presentation is part of the gift
cherry / 150 posts
When i ask my husband to buy something i care about, i am very specific, otherwise i don't bother asking him at all. My husband would have done the same - cheapest bag, not taking into account what is the gift.
If the size of the bag is ridiculous i would not use it and buy a different bag, but i wouldn't go through the trouble of getting another bag if it's due to the colour. I always resuse bags - aren't gift bags used for environmental reasons?
pomelo / 5129 posts
I wouldn't send my husband on that errand without VERY specific instructions. Wrapping just isn't his thing.
However, as a boy mom, I can say that I have about eleventy billion "It's a boy!" specific gift bags. I prefer the ones that aren't so obvious so they have a chance to be reused (we're older, so most of our friends are past baby having age)
grapefruit / 4455 posts
If it's not the right size I would just get another bag anyway. If it were the right size and I could make it a little more boyish with tissue paper and a card or whatever then I might do that. Even though I'm ok with purple for boys, a lot of people in my circle would be weirded out, so I would stick to non purple and pink colors probably.
pomelo / 5084 posts
@annem1990: If it''s the wrong size, then no, but I dont really believe in assigning colors to sexes so I sure would choose purple if I liked it!
pomelo / 5084 posts
@MaryM: Good point also - reusing!
apricot / 444 posts
@MaryM: @Sams Mom: I should have given more detailed instructions
As a boy Mom myself, I could care less about wrapping! I watch 2 little girls during the week so he’s always playing with girlie stuff. He can play with whatever he wants and having gender-specific things is totally unnecessary to me. I find it interesting that I care when it comes to giving other people gifts, though.
persimmon / 1385 posts
@annem1990: I understand your frustration with your husband, I'd be the same but I agree with @MaryM:. I had a boy and have very boy-specific gift bags coming out my ears. So as the gift receiver I would appreciate your non specific bag so I could reuse it easily.
squash / 13199 posts
@annem1990: with my husband I have to be VERY specific or he would bring back somthing zi couldnt use. Purple isn't a big deal but I would still prefer a more neutral color.
persimmon / 1196 posts
The size would be a frustrating problem, but COLORS DON'T HAVE GENDERS. As others have said, the mom-to-be would probably be grateful to have a neutral bag she can reuse, rather than one proclaiming "It's a boy!"