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Oh I know! My husband can get 12 hours of sleep one night & STILL take an hour nap later in the day....it's caused a few arguments over the years

We fight a lot about DH's sleep schedule too. He likes to sleep until at least 11, if not noon-1pm on his days off. And will go to bed at 9pm. Our six month old wakes up every hour and a half (we're working on it) and I do all night wakings. So I find it really unfair that I usually get 4 one hour naps at night, while he's sleeping up to 16 hours straight.

However, he actually does have a thyroid disorder, so we have to manage that as best we can, and it's one of those things that it's really easy for him to claim, and hard for me to deny that his actual illness might be the problem, even if I sometimes think he's just taking advantage.

But if you think he's more tired than he should be underactive thyroid might be something to look into??

He could definitely have something wrong. If he sleeps a ton and is still super tired, I would encourage him to see someone

My DH has apnea so he can sleep and never really be rested

Please, please, please get your hubby checked out for sleep apnea! My dad had sleep apnea and the dr. told him that it would take years off his life because your heart isn't getting the oxygen it needs. He didn't do a good job of using his c pap machine and sure enough, my dad passed away at 58 from a massive heart attack despite not having high blood pressure or cholesterol. He walked for an hour each day and was pretty healthy, not a smoker. I don't mean to scare people, but it is serious business!

OP, I can't imagine how frustrating this is and I'm sorry that you are going through this!

I am the one in my marriage that could sleep 12 hours a day if I didn't have LO. My husband is an early riser who never naps.

But now that I have LO I never get to nap (or hell, even sleep well at night), but at least my husband is also up. It would infuriate me if he were napping when I was equally exhausted.

@Mrs. Bee: agreed! I can only nap "on accident" but DH can say "I'm goin to nap" and is asleep in 2 mins.

I'd be SUPER mad if DH did this. It's one thing if you think there's something medical going on, and another if he's just being lazy. Maybe you could express how tired you are and get a nap too?

My DH LOVES to nap. He used to nap even before we had kids. I get it. Work is so exhausting during the week for him. But sometimes I get annoyed too, especially when I don't nap either and am always doing something while he does. Anyway, I've stopped letting it bother me unless he is putting something off he agreed to do and is napping instead. He does his fair share of kid duty when I ask him to... most times.

omg yes, I could have written this. I get so annoyed my DH wants to nap all the time on weekends...I swear he sleeps more than our 15 month old!

Does he get a good night's sleep? If his sleep is not quality during the night maybe that's why he's so tired? DH always loves napping too while I don't... I don't really find it a problem, but then again we only need to take care of a dog at home!