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I think what you are feeling is totally normal. I had many of those same feelings, especially near to the end of the pregnancy (especially the fear about LO being blind, oddly enough!). I think these feelings of anxiety are totally normal and understandable because your life is about to change, completely. You are about to become permanently and deeply attached for life to someone that you don’t know yet. It’s a joyful time, but that’s also scary and not something you can totally prepare for (which can create lots of anxiety on its own).

There is stress for major life changes; whether they are positive or negative.

Definitely talk to your doctor, but also keep reminding yourself that you cannot “jinx” things, and also that the odds are NOT in your favor to lose a baby late term or at birth. That happens extremely rarely, so the odds are not that you will be next.
Hang in there mama!

I think what you're feeling is very normal. There's such an unknown when it comes to having your first child, and the closer you get, the more real it becomes, and the more you start to worry about what will happen. I think talking about it is the best way to handle it. Try to stay calm and keep it off your mind - go for a walk, get some fresh air to clear your mind. Your baby will be here, alive and healthy, before you know it!

I am feeling similarly. Mine is manifesting itself in panic at night ... but because I haven't slept in four days due to the panic (shortness of breath and just constant scared feelings of freaking out) it's starting to boil over into the daytime.

NO IDEA what to do to make this go away.

Good luck to all of us!

since we're essentially at the same place in our pregnancy, i thought i would chime in. i almost started a thread about this the other day, but decided against. about a week ago i started getting SUPER anxious for what seems like no reason. this is completely odd for me -- i have no past with depression or anxiety, and in fact, have always been prone to optimism. BUT, in the past week, i'll suddenly start feeling super anxious, overwhelmed, emotional, and on the verge of a breakdown. i've been managing it, but it's especially hard for me since i'm not used to having these sort of feelings.

so, i wonder if maybe at this point in our pregnancy our hormones are changing or something...? i've noticed a lot of changes physically in the past couple weeks, so maybe we're experiencing some psychological and biological changes as well.

i'm not sure if it's helpful knowing that i'm going through the same thing, but it does help me to know that i'm not just crazy, and you're feeling the same way! i guess we'll just have to have faith that our bodies are GROWING BABIES, and are doing a dang good job! these babies are going to make us anxious worry-warts for the rest of our lives, so i guess we should get used to it.

@ladyfingers: Thanks for mentioning the autogenic exercises. I'm going to try those today. I talked to my midwife's nurse this morning and she recommended trying Benadryl to try and get some sleep. Not ideal, but I think the lack of sleep isn't doing me any favors.

I'm also going to try and get out for a walk. Maybe the fresh air will be healing.

I just talked to an acupuncturist and she explained a lot of why she thought my panic was happening - a lot to do with the heart chi being blocked by the baby causing the negative feelings. The way she described it made a lot of sense.

I've never tried acupuncture before, but I'm going for it this time. Maybe it will work for you too, as a way to tell the anxiety and uneasiness to go away. I'll report back.

@ladyfingers: We bought the hypnobabies home study course and all the scripts are included. One of my friends found scripts online and used those. I thought it was hokey-pokey at first, but I'm becoming a believer I'll do anything to stop worrying and get some sleep!!!

@ladyfingers: @JessiBee: @photojane: I'm on board with this too ladies but in a different way. I agree that it must be the timing and the hormones bc i have been feeling depressed as of late and overwhelmed at times. Mine isn't too much related to fears with Baby Boy but more so with feeling lonely and detached from everything especially DH. I feel like he doesn't get it sometimes how hard this is and I need him to be more supportive but when I ask it seems like I'm a chore. We've kind of lost the whole intimacy thing at this point and I don't know what to do. I cried myself to sleep last night. I'm sure I'm over exaggerating the situation but right now it hurts.

Seems like us February Mommas are a mess!

I'm having problems with anxiety too.

I get weird panicky moments when I'm alone sometimes during the day where my heart starts fluttering and I feel light headed and shaky and want my husband there Right.That.Second.

I'm also dealing with a lot of over-the-top emotions where I'll start crying for no real reason, or freaking out in the store because I couldn't make a decision on a x-mas present. It's not at all like me, and it's freaking me and DH out a little.

@Arden: I am right there with you, exactly. I cried for 2 hours last night because my husband was not going to be home during the day this week. Which is totally normal for him, but because he was working from home last week I got used to him there when I needed him (I also work from home) and my brain could not handle the change.

I'm normally very logical and self-sufficient, so this is freaking the hell out of me too. My anxiety leads to insomnia which leads to more anxiety which leads to not being able to deal with anything due to being overtired. Ugh.

My OB put me on both Ambien and Zoloft, and told me to take 2 weeks off work, around 33 weeks for depression.
For me, feeling overwhelmed at work was a big part of it- I'd never really caught up from getting so behind on my work when I was sick during the first trimester, and I got into a really awful cycle where I kept trying to catch up but only got more tired and less productive.
I think the other main factor was feeling so bad for so long. I don't think anyone can remain totally sane when you can't remember the last time you actually felt physically good, or the last time you slept more than 2 hours without waking up either to go to the bathroom or change positions or for no reason at all.
I had pretty classic depression symptoms- didn't want to get out of bed, didnt' feel like I could face the day.... thought about how it would actually be kind of nice if I somehow broke my ankle so that at least I'd have an excuse to lie in bed all day and not have anyone expect anything of me...
My DH was the one who finally said it was time to go see my doc about it, and luckily my OB took things very seriously (I think it helped that DH was there to explain to her pretty specifically what I'd been like). Without that push, I don't think I'd have had the energy/motivation to go and seek help. My OB also made me go see a therapist, who wasn't actually helpful, but that was ok. The biggest help for me was taking those 2 weeks off work and spending most of that time in bed or resting- I'd never really gotten to catch up on rest throughout my pregnancy, and spending two weeks in bed helped me feel like a person again
I was really lucky to find that I was totally fine after having LO. I'm not sure if the Zoloft made a difference, and while I wouldn't recommend doing this, I went off cold turkey as soon as I gave birth. I was lucky enough to have tons of support from DH, my mom, and my sister after giving birth, so that helped, and I think it did wonders for me to wake up every morning and think "all I have to do today is feed the baby. I'm not responsible for anything else."