DH and I just started TTC, and no one knows except for us (ha, obviously) and one close friend, the only female friend I have who has kids (a 2 yr old and a 5 month old--we figured she would be a good source of advice and support!)

We are not telling our friends and family for several reasons. 1, we don't want unsolicited advice. 2, if it takes a while, we don't want people constantly asking how's it going, etc..

Finally, I don't want to share this news with others because I am afraid people will judge us or not be happy for us. I know at the end of the day, our friends and family will come around and be so excited for us if and when the time comes. We've been married since June of last year, DH is 28, and I will be 28 early next year. Most of our friends are coupled off and just recently got married--and most are not thinking about TTC for several years. I worry that these friends would at first be bummed--like oh, our social circle is going to change. Perhaps I am just projecting.

In terms of family, I know his family would be pretty excited--he is one of 5 and his parents started at age 22, so in their eyes we need to get on that! haha. And his grandmother is SO begging for great grandbabies. But I think my parents for some reason still have trouble realizing I am not their little girl anymore and might have a hard time processing it.

Obviously, it is only up to me and DH to decide that we are ready, and we are. And that is why we are not sharing with others--so we are only taking into account our little family and what WE are ready for.

Anyone else feel the same way?