Anyone have a surprise baby? We did!
My BFF is currently TTC and I can't imagine going through the disappointment she experiences every month when AF comes. I think we will just NTNT when LO turns 1 and maybe we will get lucky again.
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Aww that's cool. My first best friend accidentally had her first LO (but it was an accident, not NTNT) but with her second she had to try for months. I think the stress in TTC actually hinders the process!
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My LO was a surprise. I'm pregnant right now with #2 who is a bit of a surprise too. We wanted to TTC in Dec so I bought TCOYF, ovulation strips, a basal body thermometer and downloaded Fertility Friend so I could get in tune with my body and learn how to read fertility signs. Never got too far with that because I got pregnant on my first attempt at charting a cycle.
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@autumnlove: that is exactly what happened to me (bought the book, the thermometer, everything)! I hadn't even gotten my period after going off the BC pill when I found out I was KU.
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I don't think I could NTNT. I couldn't stand the uncertainty and not being sure what to think every month. It sounds really nice in theory to me, to just have it happen, but I can't do it. Plus, I'd be nervous about drinking all the time and would probably pee on so many more sticks. I started charting to avoid when I went off the pill and am continuing now that we are TTC, but I won't get into OPKs or anything beyond charting until weve been trying a while and haven't had success.
It's funny, I try to think of myself as pretty laid back, but then I go and show myself just how controlling I really am
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@Mrsdaredevil: That was my SIL too. I don't know exactly when she went off the pill, but she was 37 when she got married and worried it would take a long time, so they started NTNT right before the wedding. She had bought TCOYF and was all ready to start charting when she missed her period. She returned it and exchanged it for What to Expect-- I'm guessing that was kind of funny for the B&N checkout person!
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I totally didn't know W was a surprise baby!! How did I miss that?!
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Lala was a "Whoa!" honeymoon baby.
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@cvbee: yep total shocker! I didn't even tell my DH right away because I was so afraid of his reaction.
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we weren't technically ttc, but we were fooling around in hopes of a baby. i guess you could say we were ntnt. we removed the protection, and that first month of "not trying" produced a baby. i was really regular, so i pretty much knew when i would ovulate. we did the dirty a few times around that time, and low and behold.. baby.
i don't really think it would be possible for us to have an "accidental" baby since we use protection every time. i mean, it happens... but it would be miraculous.
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@Foodnerd81: that is my aunt's exact story! The age and everything. I wonder of we know the same person. Lol.
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Very much a surprise baby. DTD once when my BC got a little messed up (like that day) and voila! We had been engaged a year and were planning a wedding for November 2013. Needless to say we pushed it forward a year (which I am so happy about, I loved out wedding; pregnant or not!). DH will not call her an accident. He calls her a blessing:) I guess when used effectively, like I had been for 6 years before getting pregnant, BC works pretty well for me but when off it I am ferrrrrtile. So, we are being extra careful now to not get pregnant again!
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We were absolutely 100% NOT trying. We had planned to wait another 4-5 years. We got too drunk on July 4th and forgot to use protection and... well, here we are with a 5 month old. lol. We had been married 8 months and were due to move to the UK 2 weeks after I found out.
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@Foodnerd81: same!!
DH and I talked about NTNT for a little while before actively TTC but I couldn't do it! I became so caught up in the process and excitement of it I loved planning it all out and telling DH when O weekend was haha he loved it too!
I might NTNT for #2 but idk if I could do it.
I didn't know Willa was a surprise either
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Our first was very much unplanned. We planned for #2 and got pregnant my first cycle off bc before I got my period back.
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@Foodnerd81, @Coco Bee: i feel the opposite! i don't think i could handle the pressure of actively ttc... the temping, charting, books, websites! i feel like it would be so disappointing every month if i was trying so hard for something and couldn't accomplish it. who knows though... maybe if things hadn't gone the way they did, i may have decided to ttc after a few months..?
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I am too much of a control freak to NTNT!
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We were actively TTCing with the baby we lost and with Emma (conceived both in one cycle though) because I'm too Type A for NTNT. Maybe in four or five years when we decide to have baby #2 we'll have a more laid-back approach.
"Whoops!" babies always puzzle me- after TTCing and seeing so many other women struggle for their THB's it seems like an alternate universe in which babies just accidentally happen. Which is ironic because I am one, lol.
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@photojane: I didn't do that much. Just tracked my periods and ovulation! I didn't do anything else like temping. But I would have started temping if it took 6+ mos
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It took 9 months for us to get pg with Harper and we were SUPER actively TTC, and I totally have a fantasy that one day I'll be one of those "Whoops! My period's late!!!" people. The whole concept fascinates me!!!!
I'm not going on BC after she's born. Whatever happens, happens. If it's in our plan to have kids close together, then so be it. I hope I never have to go back to the roller coaster of TTC. Now that I know all my "parts" work and we can have a baby, I think I'll just roll with it;)
DH jokes that he's going to just keep me pregnant until I'm 40. No BC, no goalies.
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We didn't chart or schedule anything, but prepared for a few months ahead of time (cut out alcohol, caffeine, started on prenatals, etc.) and then stopped using protection. I was not very regular so I tested the first month.. and the second month we were pregnant! I consider us to be lucky, other family members have struggled with infertility.
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@Mrsdaredevil: oooh! I want to hear more of the story. What kind of protection were you using? Why were you not TTC in that point of your life? Tell us about when you did end up telling him.
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FYI I was a TTC freak and was OBSESSED with temping and charting. I believed in temping so much, so when we conceived I was so sure I knew exactly when according to my charts, but then I was 10 days off somehow. And then baby was 2 weeks even earlier than that. (So 24 days earlier than I had obsessively calculated).
For those who didn't chart, and say that the disappointment would be too much, I found that not charting led to more disappointment than charting because I would think that I was super late and be so sure I was pregnant and then take the test and be not. I had longer cycles than most, so charting at least gave me some insight into when to give up hope for that month.
Enjoying this thread.
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LO was a surprise; although since we had unprotected sex; it wasn't totally a surprise. First time we didn't use protection in 5 years and 9 months later..whoa lol. I'm always sort of amused how apparently "trying to conceive" these days only seems to mean temping, charting, kits, books, etc. You'd think we were the first generation to ever "try to conceive" babies
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@cvbee: not charting led to more disappointment than charting because I would think that I was super late and be so sure I was pregnant and then take the test and be not. I had longer cycles than most, so charting at least gave me some insight into when to give up hope for that month.
This put into words exactly how I feel about charting
It makes my hopes more realistic. Like, I know for sure this isnt the month since I know DH was gone around O date, so there is no chance, no hopes dashed.
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I wish it was that easy for me. I had cycles of 100 days, so I didn't chart or temp or anything (just was waiting for them to regulate). I think I got pregnant on my first "normal" cycle, but it took me 13 months to get to that point (using metformin). I would love for #2 to be easier, but I don't know if that is in the cards.
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Still TTC here and can say there will be no surprise baby for us. If I hadn't done the whole charting and OPK deal and finally gone for testing we wouldn't have known that it's pretty much impossible for us to have a baby on our own.
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Although we had made a conscious decision to stop avoiding, both of my kids were concieved on the first try. It was a little surprising!
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@yoursilverlining: No, we're not the first generation to "try to conceive". Back in the day we would have been tossed aside and called useless if we couldn't have babies. Not all of us get lucky on our first try.
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@cvbee: well I had a super bad year health wise. Chronic UTIs and kidney stones, and I had just found out I had endo. I was at the doctor every week it seemed like! I was seeing a specialist and she told me that because of the endo, it could take us a while to get pregnant and maybe it would be a good idea to get off the pill since I had been on it for 6 years and see how my body would react. we decided we were going to practice NFP until we wanted to conceive, about 2 years down the road. Well, once I got off BC two months passed and I still didn't get a period. My body was so out of whack! I kept telling myself I would start charting once my period came, and it never did. I got pregnant immediately (we had been married 4.5 months).
I am so not a type A person at all so having a surprise baby was totally okay with me. Im super go with the flow but my DH is the opposite so I was terrified to tell him! After a couple days I finally told him when we were out walking our dog and he was super quiet at first. But after two weeks or so he got really
excited and then cried his little eyes out when we had our first ultrasound!!Sorry about the horrible writing I am on my phone!
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we were ttc the first time around and it was mild and happened relatively quickly (in comparison to some I guess). It wasn't fun:)
I will never go on BC again...I will be EBF for 12m, other than that, i'd like to get pregnant close to #1 and then again, wouldn't mind if it took awhile either. Never will I chart again...ever.
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I had a surprise baby. My BC was making me sick so I went off it. I tried charting to avoid pregnancy and ended up getting pregnant right after coming off birth control. We were going to start trying to conceive not long after we got pregnant so it was a very happy surprise! I decided to go on depo after our LO was born because I want to be able to enjoy our LO and his milestones and I'm afraid I'd get pregnant right away again without any protection.
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@Mrsdaredevil: yay! thanks for sharing! Wow, and you thought it was maybe going to be hard....you never know how things work out hey?
love that DH was so emotional with the ultrasound: beautiful. Congrats!
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@spaniellove: of course not everyone gets pregnant on their first try. But if you're having sex on a regular basis without protection (or avoiding times of the month, etc) and you don't have known fertility issues...you are still TTC, right? That was my point; I don't understand why there have to be so many various categories and why if you are not seeing a fertility specialist, charting, temping, etc. people say they are not TTC. Women have more value than simply their ability to bear children; I'm sorry if anyone has ever made you feel that way, and wish you luck with your journey.
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@krsmall: I left you on wall post because I don't want to threat jack but I did have a curious question on your depo shot:)
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@TurtleDoves: this is totally off topic but you said you wanted to ebf for 12 months...does that mean you are waiting until then to start solids?
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@krsmall: can you bf while on depo? How have you liked it? Any side effects?
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we had been married not even 3 months when i got my BFP. we had went off birth control, but figured it wouldn't happen right away so i wasn't temping or anything because i didn't want to go crazy with it so we were just seeing what happened. the month i got my BFP i thought for sure i was getting my period so it was a suprise in that we weren't expecting it so soon after the wedding, but were pleasently surprised. i'm hoping we have the same luck with #2
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@Mrsdaredevil: yes, I'm still breast feeding. I haven't seen any side effects. I like it because I dont have to worry about taking a pill every day. All I do is go to the doctor every 3 months and get a shot.
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@krsmall: awesome! No impact on your supply? And stupid question: does the shot hurt?
Don't mean to thread jack! (But I started this thread so I can do that right? Lol)
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