No prenup here!
Probably woulda kicked some booty if he even suggested it. 
Although, I do understand why they exist and totally believe that there are people who should sign them.
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Nope.
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Agreed- I woulda flipped had DH suggested it but if I were an heir or celeb I'd totally have one because you never know how someone might change...
We were both broke when we got married.. Heck still are haha so there would have been nothing in the Pre nup -
Nope. I married a teacher and I've got nothing but debt. But I would've signed one.
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No, neither of us had anything but student debt!! I do see how they can be beneficial for some couples though.
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Nope. If hubs was a gazillionaire then maybe I'd sign one. LOL.
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Nope. I can see certain cases for them, especially if there are kids from a previous relationship or something. But for us, we had no major assets and now we are a team.
I've heard of a post-nup-- basically for post marriage when something changes significantly, like to protect a SAHM who leaves a lucrative career to stay home or something. We wont have that either though.
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No but my mom wanted me to get one.
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Nope
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Nope
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Nope! But we don't fall into the category of people that should sign them...though I kinda wish we did!
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HA HA HA. no.
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Wow, am I the only one who has one? I wasn't thrilled with it, but DH is 10 years older and has a whole lotta assets and i just had debt, so it was important to him. It was a huge struggle for us and almost caused us to call off the wedding, but it ended up being a super basic one that didn't really say much. So all that trouble for pretty much nothing! Uhhgg!
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Neither of us have anything so it would have just been silly.
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Nope!
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Nope. There was nothing for us to "prenup"! haha (so sad)
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Nope!
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Nope!
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We are currently working on a post nup, so I'm with you @duckduckkristen: DH is 7 years older, although 95% of it has to do with family stuff, which I am totally fine with!
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No but we got together when we were young and poor.
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I wouldn't have had too much of a problem with it, but we didn't do one because we were both dirt poor (we also didn't have any debt though, so we came in with exactly nada).
We also work in a field that isn't lucrative, so there isn't a lot of chance that either of us will bring in anything significant in the future, either. -
Hubs and I didn't have anything going into the marriage except debt, so we don't have one.
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No, but we have been together since age 20....I made money and pseudo supported him while he was in medschool/residency and though soon he will make more than me, it will all come out in the wash.
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Nope, hubs has a couple of properties and I had some cash but we didnt even discuss a prenup.
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Nope and I would have questioned his trust for me had he suggested it but that's just me. I do understand some people's reason for needing one but I know my situation and that wouldn't have gone over well.
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Yes! And I was totally happy and comfortable with it, based on his reasons for wanting one. Surprisingly, I feel like going through that process brought us even closer.
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I don't see a prenup as a question of trust.....in certain circumstances, I think it's smart to have them. And the reality is that with the ish hits the fan in a marriage, people do things you never thought possible.
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The idea of a prenup doesn't bother me at all, I think they are very smart things to have. I feel it's like life insurance, you don't plan on dieing early but if I do I want all bases covered. That said, we were both broke as a joke when we met at the ripe old age of 18, so there was nothing to 'nup' as it were.
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Nope, we were/are broke! Nothing to write a prenup for!
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@winniebee: Exactly!
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@duckduckkristen: I have one to!
DH is 16 years older and has his own business. He also has rental houses and property. After 10 years the prenup voids out though so it's not a perminet thing.
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No, there was no need. This makes me think of that Seinfeld episode though where George tries to get Susan to break up with him by suggesting a prenup and she just starts laughing because she has more money than him, and is like, "Sure, give it to me, I'll sign your prenup. HAHAHA."
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We have one. DH has a sizeable inheritance coming his way and it was a family requirement. It's fairly innocuous and didn't bother me at all to sign it.
It protects his family's assets. I think it would be weird if we were to divorce and then I owned part of a house with his sisters.
As far as our own assets they will (god forbid) be split equally like any other couple. -
No, although now I wish I had some kind of postnup. Not because I actually think we'd get divorced but because I don't want to be kicking myself someday for trusting anyone not to take what is mine.
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@spaniellove: I totally see it that way too, even though it was his idea. Neither of us has any assets, just debt, but it's no different than buying life insurance.. it's not like "well, I'm expecting to die soon"... more, why not get a policy in order just in case the worst-case scenario strikes that could destroy you?
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No, we didn't have anything going in, but DH has a potentially large inheritance coming his way in the not distant future so I would have understood if his family had asked (and I would have signed).
Side note: My SIL has a very significant trust fund she can fully access when she turns 40. Her and stepbrother were 18-19 when they got pregnant/married, and against her family's wishes they did not have a pre-nup. They are now in the middle of a messy divorce, and stepbrother is trying to get part of her trust fund in the settlement. Reason number 123958573 I sided with her in the separation.
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No, but I would not have been offended. I even told my mom if he had asked, we'd just make him sign a pre-nup for me too! lol! But I think he "knew better" than to ask. Definitely in the case of some of our friends and family, it's a no-brainer that some of them really DO need the prenups and even for others, they SHOULD HAVE gotten prenups. It's wise to have a discussion about it either way, in my opinion.
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I don't, and I really believe you shouldn't sign one unless one or both of you come INTO the marriage with significant assets or have family money. To suggest a prenup without either of those conditions, to me, would have been offensive. Anything we make in this marriage belongs to us equally. Since we're both young and neither of us fall into those categories, we didn't even talk about it.
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We didn't have anything to protect at this point, but we wouldn't have done one anyway. My parents own a lot of land (ranchers), so I guess you could argue that I could have asked for one to "protect" that, but that's just not how we view marriage and God willing, I actually won't own any of that for many, many years.
That said, in many situations I would have no issue whatsoever in recommending a prenup, even if I was absolutely convinced they would never get divorced; it's just not for us.
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Ironically, both of us are lawyers but do not have a prenup. We discussed at length a bunch of times. In the end, we have debt and a dog so there wasn't really a need. Nevermind, I know if we ever split and I'm at fault, he will rake me over the coals, LOL!
That being said, I *highly* recommend on for anyone with assets or different situations - age, property, debt, etc. My cousin is engaged and I'm trying to recommend it to her - she owns a house, he was previously married, has a son and no house.
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