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If you want some bonding time between you, your baby and husband then I would tell her that you would really need her when your husband goes back to work. Hav her ome that fifth week. It might make her feel like she is really helpful when you need it.

I was honestly glad to have my mom around. I was having trouble nursing and she was a huge help with my twins. ( my husband was at a loss as to how to help me nurse them). But she can also be over bearing and insensitive. I just have to set boundaries and tell her that It is my choice and that's that

I had my mom here for 2 weeks and it was SO helpful! Sure I was super hormonal and easily irritated, but! Having an extra set of hands cook, clean and help with the baby was the best thing ever!
I would just talk to your mom and tell her that you need help cooking and etc.

Hia Nskillet, i was not surprised by your post, and the feeling you are going through... Am sailing in same boat... I have been so independent and sel righteous person but My mom staying with me during my pregnancy is more than interference and trouble some than help... People come to visit me and are so happy stating that my My MOM is here is so nice so sweet... but it's not the case... It was better in 1st semester but in middle of 2 semester my hubby had to travel abroad for some official project , since then things have changed... she keeps forgetting that am pregnant or i have injured my left foot... She keeps comparing this stat of mine to hers like so much work she use to do and all... and second thing like watever she does is right... no one questions her... How i wish my mom in-law to be here... am not saying my mom is bad, but she is careless for my health, needs, food, forgetful abt my injury... i used to strech myself an dused to do chores as much i can and not pointing at her but now as am in 7 month running i have put my foot down and remind her and refrain doing her by saying i have injured foot and am pregnant... Moverover her nagging things, unwanted bitching or cribbing abt oth family members jus puts me off and i really don want my child to learn such negativity...

One suggestion... which works for me...
- Avoid conversation
- talk limited
-don't point her fault , even though she is wrong, jus try to make right by thyself
- don't react when something of her act/saying or watsoever upsets you... keep calm... DON'T EVER REACT!! it wil just spoil things
-since there is no way out i can get rid of her..as everyone in famuily feels am enjoy and having best phase with her...
No option , just accept the fact

-Give benifit of doubt lie mebbe she has passed her midlle age so jus let go and keep her happy

All the best
Nidz

Oh no, that must be tough for you! Luckily my parents and inlaws respected our boundaries. I loved having them come over to help, but I also loved that we were able to spend lots of time as a new family of 3. I think you should try to set boundaries now, or you're going to have an even tougher time in the future.

Also, I think the only issue I'm going to face as far as the visiting schedules is when everyone comes. Because I'm going to need the Gmoms most when I go back to work but I'm sure they will want to come stay with us before then. It's such a hassle especially for my MIL to get out here that I really don't want her visiting at a time when we don't really need help vs. when we're desparate for someone to lend a hand!

We had the same issue. I asked my mom to give us a few days after coming home from the hospital to get settled, to which she had agreed. However, once LO was born, the next day she showed up to stay with us for 2 weeks. She wanted to "show me" how to do everything, which was not necessary and kind of annoying, but I didn't have the energy to put up a fight in my postpartum state. I'm unsure if there was anything I could have done differently but I sure do hope for your sake you can figure it out.