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He's planning on it either after our second or once we decide for sure that we only want one.

DH is totally on board with doing it because it's major surgery to get my tubes tied and outpatient for him. I'm the one who is hesitant for him to get it done because I heard it can mess things up down there

He whines about it but when in the end I'm sure he will do it. We don't want any surprise babies, especially if we already have three, haha. Plus I need to be on medications when pregnant so it's kind of scary to not be properly prepared

DH is thinking about it!

DH has an appointment next week to get it done. I will fill everyone in on how it went lol.

I voted yes cause we are planning on it once the baby factory is closed. DH is all for it, so we don't have to worry about an opps baby.

He'll get it done when we're completely finished with kids. But who knows when that will be......

@BabyBoecksMom: what do you mean mess things up? I've never heard that before??

We've talked about it since one of his friends had it done this year. I think after baby number 2 I'll get another Mirena, and if we are good with 2 after that expires we will talk about it then.

We're thinking about it as a safeguard way in the future, but definitely wouldn't do anything for a while. Til then, no glove, no love.

@blackbird: it's not a minor thing to a guy.

We talked about it while I was still pregnant and DH is planning on having a vasectomy. We wanted to wait a bit after LO to make sure we are really one and done, and so far, neither of us want another child so he will be scheduling it soon.

I think it helps that one of DH’s good friends had a vas and was very open about the whole procedure so my husband doesn’t think it’s a big deal.

Vasectomies are not always reversible; so I definitely wouldn’t think about one unless you are 10000000% sure you don’t want any more bio children.

This is a huge topic of conversation at our house! I really don't think I want to have any more biological children after these two, but I do definitely want to adopt a girl. Therefore, I'm Team Vasectomy, though I'm not ready for him to do it yet. I want to wait until the boys are a year or two old and make sure I feel the same way then about having more biologically. DH keeps trying to call my bluff by saying that if I'm so convinced, I should just get my tubes tied this time if I have to have a c-section. I think he would probably do it eventually, but I think the idea really bothers him right now.

Maybe it's like @mrbee: said: It's just not a minor thing to guys, even though it is a less invasive, risky procedure. I guess mentally/emotionally, maybe it would be like us having our ovaries removed or something.

Yup, DH has agreed it's fair that if I go through childbirth, he should have a vasectomy. We're pretty set on the number we want to have, and if we wanted more we'd adopt instead of having more kids of our own. I also do not like being on hormonal birth control and don't want to do that for the rest of my fertile years.

Hmmm...there is a "specialist" in this area in my city and I have a friend who had it done. Basically they have some cutting edge technology where you literally feel almost zero pain.
He said he went into the office, stayed standing up, the doctor did something that he said "felt like a rubber band snapping" and then boom. He was done. He walked out ten minutes later and drove himself home. So it's really not much of a procedure anymore at all (although I know not all places practice this type of vasectomy).

Only caveat is that he said there needed to be a certain amount of ejaculations before it was effective. I do not know if this is the case with all vasectomies...

He's already told me repeatedly that he's not getting one.

@mrbee: & @chopsuey119: & @MrsBrewer: Sorry - my phone died when I was in the middle of editing that. What I meant to say was how it changes the ....consistency... of things. Also, my friend's husband had a bad reaction to it and had to take a trip to the ER. I know he's just one of the very few unlucky ones that actually had and issue with it, but it still scares me.

@blackbird: I guess what's not clear is that many men have a strong physical aversion to pain in that area. I have been reminded of this because my son likes to kick me hard in the crotch constantly when I least expect it, and it is not fun.

There are other non-physical reasons why vasectomies aren't as easy as they may seem, but you sound pretty convinced on the "suck it up, it's just a day and an ice pack" perspective so I won't try to sway you!