Do you need space from not only the world, but your LOs too? At the end of a long day with the kiddos, the noise and constant touching and whining just gets overwhelming, to the point if making me physically anxious. Being a SAHM is HARD for me (not like it isn't for anyone else) and sometimes I wish Farmer Man (who is NOT an introvert) would understand how mentally exhausting, how much physical energy the constant interaction saps from me. Sometimes I'm just SO sick of talking and my own voice drives me nuts.
I know every parent, introverted or not, probably reaches this point, but how do other introverts deal with parenthood?
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Not sure if I'm allowed to answer, but life as an introverted parent is tough for me! It's especially hard to meet other parents, and to go to playspaces where other parents hang out...
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@mrbee: You're allowed, Mr. Bee. Yes, some days the LAST thing I wanna do is go out and interact with other adults.
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I think of this everytime I take LO out in public. Having a kid didnt automatically make me want to talk to you, random lady in the grocery store! And I totally need some time to just myself everyday. I think that's the hardest adjustment I've had to make in having LO.
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Yes! At the end of the day I want nothing more than half an hour to sit and not talk to anyone. DH is the extrovert in our marriage, and though try as he might, he just doesn't get it.
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yes. i have a hard time meeting/talking to people i don't know. and find it so strange when people just talk to me randomly, because i have a kid.
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Yes! I'm not used to talking a lot, especially because before LO came I was a SAHW for a little bit so I was used to being home alone a lot. Now I'm always talking and singing to her, my throat hurts by the end of the day!
I'm used to people talking to me randomly by now. Most actually stop and ask about my dog though, not my kid.
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Yep, I'm an introvert. I'm really socially awkward. I'm happier to do things with DS during the week, rather than on weekends, just to avoid large crowds. DH is the same way at least, so we do quiet activities together, rather than try to have a million people around us all at once.
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Me! I feel the same way! My SO is a total extrovert and does not understand at all. It can be very hard on days I get touched out and just need time alone. I'll tell my SO I need a time out and I go take a bath or sit outside and read. I have a hard time making parent friends, doing playdates, etc.
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I'm so socially awkward, I have made NO mommy friends and LO is 9 months. I have a really hard time with random people talking to me because of LO. Having a baby is like carrying a basket of puppies around, the world all of a sudden is attracted to talk to me. I avoid our local parks during peek hours. This is why HB have been quite the saving grace for me.
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N@Koolbreeze: @mamabear57: I have friends, mommy and otherwise, and I always wonder if they think it's strange that I'm not constantly calling them up to chat or wanting to get together or whatever, but I honestly never think about those things. I see most of my friends at church every week, but once in awhile I'll suddenly realize, oh yeah, I haven't seen so-and-so in awhile, I miss them. But after socializing for a few hours, I'm ready to be alone again. It's not like I'm allergic to people- I'm a doula, so I get pretty up close and personal sometimes, but I definitely need some time decompress after a birth, just for the mere fact that I was dealing with so many different people. Oh, and I'm the coordinator for a local produce co-op and OMG, that has been HARD, with having to be nice and diplomatic to everyone and manage other volunteers, ooft. Yeah.
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I feel like this will describe me, though I don't have my kid just yet. I'm really introverted and hate talking to people in public if I don't have to. I need quiet time at home to recharge. It'll be hard to adjust to basically no quiet time with a kid around! But, my parents are this way too and I turned out fine. I did a lot of independent activities like coloring or doing puzzles, when I was growing up. I'm sure these were designed to give mom a break!
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I'm lucky in that DH is an extrovert and is really good about understanding that I need time to myself, and that I'm a way better parent, friend, wife, employee, etc. if I get sufficient alone time to recharge. DH will often make plans for him and LO to hang out with friends on the weekend while I do other stuff, so that way he gets to hang out with people and I get alone time. I think our friends sometimes have a hard time with it (i.e. I know they sometimes wonder if it means I don't like them as much) but at least now that I'm pregnant I can plead gestational exhaustion
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I'm not a parent (yet) but I am introverted to the point where social situations can sometimes feel paralyzing. My DH is also an extreme extrovert and he just does not get what the reality is for someone who is introverted. It's good to know that others go through the same things as I do.
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