Does it still upset you?
Some days I realize that even 12 years later, I am still not OK with this!
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mine are technically divorced, but they got back together like 10 years ago. They are "engaged" now but probably will never re-marry.
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Mine divorced when I was a baby...what upset me really was my dad's remarriage to an abusive stepmother and when they forced me to stop seeing my mother or even calling her my mother.
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Yes, mine are divorced and I am so happy they are. Neither parent is really happy, but they were downright toxic together.
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Mine divorced 18 yrs ago. It didn't really upset me, even as a child (once I got over the shock of dad leaving). I could see that they made each other unhappy and I'd rather them be happy apart than miserable together.
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Mine divorced when I was 16... It should've happened sooner. We were all unhappy.
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@MrsBrewer: lol:) Yeah my dad proposed to my mom a few times after the divorce. Of course she was like, "hit the road, bud!"
@spaniellove: wow, i'm so sorry:( Way to make a divorce even more traumatic then need be!
@MRS. LEMON-LIME: mine too! It was 100% better that they divorce, and both parties are now happy...but that doesn't make me feel good, still. I am OK most days but once in awhile i'm like "wait...this is unnatural!". I didn't have what many kids do have:/ And I can't help but wonder how things may have been different.
I guess I lived in an area and in a culture where people don't really divorce and all my friends had both parents. Mind you, I was a very lucky child but when both parents aren't together, it is weird (was weird for me).
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Yes, they divorced when I was two years old. For a long time I didn't think it affected me since it happened when I was so young and I never really knew them as a couple. But now that I have some adult perspective, I realize that it was really hard on me.
Because of that I would go to great lengths to avoid divorce - though I am not comfortable saying things like "divorce isn't an option" because the fact is, I don't have 100% control over that. Like in my parents' case, my father had an affair and my mom was willing to forgive and move on, but he didn't want to. So really, there wasn't a lot she could do
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@TurtleDoves: Like you, I come from a culture where divorce isn't as common. And growing up I got a lot of negative comments from judge-y parents. It hurt, but eventually I realized that there are no perfect families.
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@meredithNYC: same situation with us. It wasn't an option at all. I feel the same as you, as a kid I didn't care. As an adult, especially as a child/school social worker, it bothers me. I now know the many ways divorce is detrimental to kids! Of course, i'd be very messed up had they stayed together though! So, for us it was the lesser of 2 evils.
@spaniellove: absolutely. A perfect family is one that just loves. I have that with my mom, siblings and DH. So, i'll be totally fine. Just one of those things that may never get out of the back of my mind...
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Yep. It doesn't usually bother me, but when my PawPaw passed here recently and my mom went out to my grandparents house to take them food and just support my grandma it was REALLY hard. It was really hard on all of us tbh & both my parents will attest that they should've never divorced. They aren't chomping at the bit to get back together either though.... My dad, while a good guy, isn't a very strong leader and now that my mom has a ministry for women, it'd be pretty vital for my dad to step up. If he did, my mom would TOTALLY be willing to work things out (she firmly believes God would what that restored and the family back together). She actually tried a couple years ago and my dad totally dropped the ball. =/
Who knows what the future holds at this point... they're both single at this point. lol
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Mine divorced when I was 8, and my dad remarried like 6 months later. I'm glad they divorced...it was better for everyone, but I'm a little bitter my dad remarried so quickly.
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No, my parents are still married and goin strong! I'm one of the only people I know who's parents didn't divorce though.
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No it doesn't upset me at all. Life was so tense when they were together. Everyone is happier now.
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Doesn't bother me at all. They divorced when I was 3 and it was a very smooth divorce and they remained really good friends. Although, like @turtledoves said, as an adult I see the small ways that divorce affected me as a child, but it was probably the lesser of two evils since they didn't get along.
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I don't remember my parents being together. They divorced when I was a baby. My mom and stepmom did not get along at all. I lived with my dad and heard a lot of negative comments about my mom. I also couldn't send or receive emails from my mom without them being screened. That part was hard on me.
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Nope! I don't remember my parents being together. I am actually closer to my stepfather than my actual father. I loved my stepmom too, but she passed away.
My parents all get along well though which helps a lot.
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Definitely. My dad had an affair and I still feel annoyed at him for doing that, annoyed at my mum for not being stronger and sticking up for herself at the time, and annoyed at myself for still caring, lol. They split up 14 years ago but only got divorced last year and it was SO MESSY! It's really affected my relationship with them, but I'm trying to rebuild it for A's sake. Even after all that time. I really hope I don't put A through that.
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I'm glad mine got divorced, because they were miserable. However, I wish things were different and they were happy or able to work things out.
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Nope. My parents split up when I was less than a year old. They both remarried when I was quite young and I was blessed to be raised by four loving parents. I think it worked out better for me this way than if they'd stayed together.
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Yes. They only separated 3 years ago and divorced last year, but it still sucks. Even at 25! My dad is now 3 hours away living with his girlfriend who has tons of family in the immediate area. It feels like we've been replaced, which is so stupid and immature of me, butttt that's how it feels when I see him twice a year and his girlfriend's kids see them every week! It also sucks that my mom refused to talk to me (or let my sisters talk to me) for a long period of time because I wouldn't cut off communication with my dad. He wasn't abusive or mean, she just wanted me to pick her. Dumb
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Nope. Their marriage wasn't my business. What bothers me more is all the anger my mom STILL has over it, 12 yrs later...but its pretty much all a moot point now, tbh.
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@TurtleDoves: my parents divorced 23 years ago... It never really bothered me back then because at the time I was young and it was just normal to me that my dad wasn't around much. I think now though, it bothers me a little only because I'm older and married; I can understand a little more about what it's like to have stress on a marriage... Sometimes I think, why didn't my parents try harder to negotiate or concede on things, like I do now, you know? Another reason it bothers me a little now is because my dad is growing old and alone...
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