I didn't think I could love my son as much as I love my daughter..
Especially right away.
But I love him so much it's craZy!
I didn't think I could love my son as much as I love my daughter..
Especially right away.
But I love him so much it's craZy!
hostess / wonderful watermelon / 39513 posts
I have this worry! Glad you are disproving my fear!
squash / 13199 posts
Yes. Right now I love my daughter so much that I wonder if I will have any love left over for my next child and what if I love one more than the other?
admin / wonderful grape / 20724 posts
I used to stress about loving them equally, but then I realized that it's more about each of them feeling loved and secure. So now I do my best to make sure they both feel loved!!
That said, I do love them both so much!
GOLD / papaya / 10166 posts
So glad to hear that!
I think this is in the back of my mind, but I'm more worried about playing favorites.
honeydew / 7488 posts
This was a huge fear but after having 2 I realized it's so possible to love both. Your heart just expands to make room, how cheesy is that? These days I notice that I love them differently. I am harder on DD since I view her as being very capable and expect a lot out of her. DS, I just treat like the "silly little boy" and baby of the family. I don't know if that is a good thing or not, it's just the way it naturally comes out. I would love to hear a guest post on family dynamics and healthy ways to show equal love to all children without having to love the "same" way.
pomelo / 5093 posts
I just had a dream where my second child wasn't nearly as cute or interesting as my little girl. I know you don't really feel that way, but I'm scared!
persimmon / 1479 posts
I have really been worried about this with number 3 coming. My girls ares so different and I love them both so much. I am having a hard time imagining how this baby is going to fit in and what they will be like.
blogger / watermelon / 14218 posts
The only thing I can say is that your heart definitely expands IMMEDIATELY, and the love you have for each of your kids (and your spouse) is different. When I look at WJ, I feel like he has my whole heart. When I look at LMW, I feel like she has my whole heart. On a good day, I feel like WS has my whole heart That one's a little harder to feel without work!
ETA: oh and when I'm with both kids or the whole family, I feel like my heart is just going to burst because I'm overwhelmed with love.
hostess / wonderful grape / 20803 posts
@mrs. wagon: HAHAH on a good day ; )
I worry about this. I can't imagine loving another baby as much as I love my son now. But I also couldn't imagine loving him more than I did a week ago....and I feel like I love him even more now (if possible).
blogger / watermelon / 14218 posts
@shopaholic: hehe I'm a super crazy realist so I never thought I'd feel this way... but it just happens, I have no explanation!
pomegranate / 3414 posts
I'm a twin and someone once told my mom that it isn't about loving us equally but about loving us differently since we are different people and will have different needs throughout life.
kiwi / 515 posts
@winniebee: I feel the same way, it's hard to imagine but I keep loving dd even more and I get excited for another babe but can't imagine loving another babe as much as Lil!
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21616 posts
Surprisingly enough, no!
I know I will love each of my children just as much.
Maybe it's because I came from a family of 6 kids? It was never really a worry in my family whether my parent loved us equally.
coconut / 8498 posts
@Mrs. Pen: I don't have a problem with this either. I love LO so so so much, and more each day, that I can't imagine not loving another of my children just as much. I look forward to being able to love more children!
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21616 posts
@sarac: eh I think it's a realistic fear... I think that subconsciously I'm kind of a shallow person (!!). I really was hoping my son would be cute/good-looking because I knew that if he was an ugly baby, I would readily admit it. I have seen ugly babies and I'm sorry to say that I admit that!! Anyway - I didn't think DS was cute in the first days after birth - he was very rugged looking. I loved him because he's mine of course - but still didn't think he was all that cute. After a few days he all of a sudden became adorable and at 10 mos is sooo pretty - he has the biggest blue eyes and the perfect little nose and lips. I worry that my next child won't be as "pretty"
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