My DD is almost 3 and we've been having whining and tantrums over every.little.thing. and it's driving me crazy. I know part of it is due to her age and part of it is due to her 3 week old baby brother but I am seriously struggling to keep my patience with her and often times end up losing it. The whining is like nails on a chalkboard to me and instantly raises my blood pressure. I'm usually able to start out being calm and patient with her, but as the tantrum rages on I often end up yelling at her. And then I feel instantly guilty and like a shitty mom and like I'm damaging her for life.
We've tried just shutting her door and telling her she can come talk to us when she's calmed down, but usually it just gets worse and worse. I've tried sitting with her and talking to her about her feelings, which works maybe 30% of the time. We've tried time outs, taking toys or privileges away, sitting with her while she tantrums. I've made efforts to have one-on-one time with her and make special "dates" with her since the baby arrived. And I've talked to her a lot about how mommy and daddy love her. Nothing seems to help and I'm just at the end of my rope with all of it. Please tell me I'm not the only one feeling this way!