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I currently have 3 wedding gifts outstanding ( I am still within the year of grace), but I just keep forgetting!

Even if no monetary or physical gift is given, a card (with a note and signature) should be. No matter what, no exceptions. You even get a year to send that card. You can't tell me you don't have 5 minutes and $1 to spend on a card in a whole year.

Personally, I would at least bring a box of cookies or something, even if that is all I could afford.

We always bring a card with cash to the wedding.

Nope, I've never showed up with nothing, but I absolutely think cards are completely acceptable if a gift cannot be afforded. I actually really appreciated all the cards with well wishes that we received, regardless if there was a gift involved. I think a special message is just as nice as a gift, honestly.

We've had people travel to our wedding and didnt give us a gift or card. It was fine since I considered spending money on airfare and accommodations gift enough.

One time, and one time only. DH and I had JUST started dating, like a month and a half into it, and he got a total last-minute invite to this guy's wedding (he wasn't super close with him, knew him through his then-roommate, who was best friends with him). So I just figured that DH would have taken care of the gift...turns out he had been gone for work for 2 weeks prior and completely blanked... We vowed we were going to get them something, then never did and we've never seen them again since then...oops.

We had a few people not give us gifts for our wedding, but it was the people I wouldn't have "expected" it from! 2 of DH's groomsmen got him nothing, and then two of my aunts didn't get us anything.

First I want to say my family is kind of strange... so some of this might not make sense.

I have a really big family in my area and we all don't really keep in touch outside of weddings and funerals.

People seem to invite my parents and say the invite is for the whole family (which is what I did for my wedding). In those cases my parents usually tell me when the date is and what time and we carpool to the wedding. Half the time I have no idea who is getting married or where the wedding is.

My parents usually give a large amount of money on behalf of "our" family which includes them, me and DH, and my siblings and their family. Usually I had no idea how much that was.

After the wedding though, I try to look for the couples registery after the wedding and get them something off of it but most of the time I can't find their registery which isn't too uncommon for asian people because they just expect people to give them money.

I guess I could send them a card but usually I don't have the address of the people getting married at all, since my parents don't share the wedding invite with me ... because they are a bit strange like that.

The same thing happened when I got married. I honestly didn't know about 30% of my guest because we had to invite them since they were family.

I never have, but there were a couple of people at my wedding that did that. And two of them were my close friends! And it was not a money issue--they are both single guys who make double what I make--it's just more of a "doesn't understand how weddings work" thing.

just once, but they specifically and emphatically noted NO gifts. it was also a lunch reception. we just wrote them a card... it felt so strange!

When I was younger, I definitely went to weddings and sent a gift later-- usually because I couldn't afford something at that moment, but I think (hope) I always sent something in less than a year.

We had a handful of people come to our wedding and never give us anything, including friends whose weddings we had been to and given gifts at not long before. I know they just forgot and have no idea, but it's been funny when one of the girls actually talks about wedding gifts. I'm sort of afraid one day she'll look at me and be like, what did we give you guys?

I had a decent amount of people at my wedding that did not give us a gift. Actually, my very best friend who was a bridesmaid didn't gift me anything, but she did a ton for me in being a bridesmaid Plus, when I had LO, she gifted me my car seat to "make up for it". I never realized that she hadn't gotten me a gift until she pointed it out

@grizz: that is so sweet. How lovely of him to apologise.

Never. If for some reason I wasn't able to give a gift, I would for sure give a card. After we got married a supposedly-close friend who didn't come (I think for selfish reasons...) kept telling me that she had a gift ready to send us, which I didn't expect. I always said something like "Oh, thats nice of you, but you really didn't have to". Of course it never came though, and it was more of an insult that she kept saying she was going to send something but never did. If she really intended to send something, I would've rather it been a surprise.

I do have a funny story though. A cousin (in his 50s) who is pretty well off sent us a card and check many months later. He found it it his suit pocket the next time he went to wear it!

We didn't get gifts from several guests, including family members / people who should know better. I honestly think you should give a gift - even if it is a $20 BB&B gift card - if you attend a wedding, unless you already gave them a shower gift.

A couple of our good friends got married in a small town several hours by plane from where we live. It costs us over 1K to go to the wedding, and we also essentially provided childcare periodically throughout the weekend for two other kids (children of other good friends) while their parents were in the wedding party and doing various related tasks. They also specifically told everyone not to get them gifts.

We are way beyond the year grace period and never even got a card from some guests (including family!). I would never not bring a gift.

No, I always bring a card with money. I only give cash at weddings, and normally I attend the bridal shower and bring a gift to that!

To be honest, I didn't even know that there was a year long grace period for wedding gifts until I started looking up etiquette for thank you cards.