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I had quite a few people not bring anything. DH's aunt, some of my friends from HS, his grandparents, and some others.
I think it's rude. You can't afford $25 to give? I paid more than that for your food! It's even worse from family.
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I think it's hard to swallow because, especially without even a card, it almost feels like they aren't truly acknowledging the marriage.
I'm not a materialistic person in the slightest, but, just as I bring a bottle of wine or a bouquet of flowers when I'm invited as a guest for dinner, I anticipate a token of congrats at a wedding.
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@deerylou: "I think it's hard to swallow because, especially without even a card, it almost feels like they aren't truly acknowledging the marriage."
Precisely. Why are you coming to my wedding if you can't even be bothered to spend a small amount of time and money to write us a nice note? Is our marriage really that unimportant to you?
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Not on purpose! We always bring a card & a check inside. Once or twice we forgot the card at home or the checkbook! So, we'd just get their address & mail it as soon as we could following the wedding.
When I was MOH in my friend's wedding, I didn't gift but yet I got her a shower gift, I made her entire shower and I slaved away for her wedding as well as traveled for it. So, yeah... -
We went to a wedding last summer (DH was the best man) and they asked for donations to charity in lieu of gifts - we need to donate like 8 months ago!
DH is going to a wedding in a few weeks. It's a destination wedding in Mexico. LO and I cannot attend (I can't take time off work and LO is EBF), but just for DH alone the cost is inching toward $1,000 (renewing passport, time of work, tickets, etc.) We're giving them a card, but no gift. We can't afford it, yo. -
I had a good friend at my little wedding who traveled from out of state, while in graduate school. She didn't gift, but her presence was more than enough.
What bothered me was DH's two brothers who complained about the cost of traveling, and ended up on an overnight flight, via my in-laws. They didn't have to pay for lodging, since their parents had room, but they still didn't bother with a card. Same goes for his local sisters.
If I travel extensively for a wedding, or I'm in the wedding party and already shell out cash, I usually DIY something, and get a nice card.
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@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: yes it was a tradition "off the registry" gift. i think if you attended the shower and gave a gift off the registry you're fine. it's ridiculous to expect two gifts for the same event!
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I have attended a wedding and not brought a gift. It was right after graduation, and I didn't have a job. The only way I even got to go was because I rode with my parents (it was in PA).
It never bothered me if someone didn't bring a gift. I was so glad they were able to come and celebrate my marriage.
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The only times I've not gifted is for the people who didn't get us wedding gifts. If and when they decide to get us something, we will get them something- I'm looking at you, EVERY SINGLE ONE of my five bridesmaids....
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@pink champagne: I wish I could stick to my guns, and do the same. Unfortunately, I don't think I have the balls not to gift, even though several of our guests neglected us on our wedding day.
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