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@Anonysquire: I really feel for you. sweetie. My ex used to do this quite often, go out with his friends and come back really ridiculously drunk. I like a drink myself - but it was scary, some of the states he came back in. One night, he called me at 2am and said he was lost. He was rambling about being covered in sick and kept insisting it wasn't his sick - and he was getting more and more distressed. I called his friend up - who was also insanely drunk - and he said that S had gotten into a taxi to go home and, at that point, there was no sick on him. I could only surmise that he had been thrown out of a taxi on the way home for being sick (and then not realised it was his vomit??) and so I got in my car and drove into town, the way way the taxi would have come. Sure enough, about a mile away from home, I spotted him staggering up a main road, veering onto the path of (fortunately infrequent) oncoming cars. I got him into the car and he was promptly sick all over the inside of the passenger door. When I got him home, I couldn't get him upstairs - he fell asleep on the sofa and then vomited in his sleep, nearly choking in the process. I sat up all night watching him.....

We broke up a few weeks after that. He refused to understand why I was so upset about it and refused to stop getting into those kind of states. This meant that I'd lie awake any time he went out, worrying, until he was home safe.

So, yeah, just to say, I feel for you tonight. It's scary - and it's also so frustrating. Once he's got over the puking stage, you can let him sleep it off fairly confidently. I'm sure he'll be fine. Hugs. x

Ahh, he hasn't been sick?! Ahh, he'll be fine - especially now he's had some water. Try and get some rest - the best thing for him is sleeping it off. xx

PS - you're a nurse aren't you?! A nurse with a vomit phobia? Wow, I have some serious respect for you!

@anonysquire: sorry you know i can relate to your fear. i have had to do that a couple times too. are you mad at him, or are you going to let it go?

@anonysquire: Wow. I would so not be doing that for him. I have no sympathy for people that get that drunk. I mean, yes I'd pick DH off the road if he were out there, but once he's asleep? Then he can deal with the ramifications himself! Is it daytime there for you? Maybe you could go for a walk or plan something to do today (cause if your hubs is like mine, he'll be useless today). Hugs.

And sorry about the puke...

Sorry you have to deal with this situation!

Have you tried getting treatment for your phobia? Phobia extinction is a pretty common treatment these days! I've had several phobias extinguished by treatment, and it's been such a relief not to have to deal with them.

@anonysquire: A phobia is just a specific type of anxiety disorder. It's all related!

There's a great overview of phobia treatments (by success metrics) in this really useful book, What you can change and hat you can't:
http://www.amazon.com/What-You-Change-Cant-Self-Improvement/dp/1400078407/

CBT is excellent for phobia extinction.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_behavioral_therapy#Anxiety_disorders

I also found autogenics to be hugely useful for self-treatment... especially when I felt high levels of anxiety:
http://www.guidetopsychology.com/autogen.htm

Phobias are very very easy to treat! I was very skeptical, but I've reviewed a lot of the studies and literature and tried almost every treatment out there, and it's definitely possible to get relief!

@anonysquire: I have had a lot of issues with anxiety/depression/ and some other issues & I had great success working with a therapist & using this as my workbook. Looks like it was really helpful for other people too just looking at the reviews on amazon. Just a thought
http://www.amazon.com/Dialectical-Behavior-Therapy-Skills-Workbook/dp/1572245131/ref=pd_sim_b_1

@anonysquire: I assume that he doesn't think he's done anything wrong because it's not that unusual for him to have been that drunk. And probably thinks you are crazy for worrying about him. And on your end, you aren't used to it and it makes it all scary, plus you are already anxious and he's not understanding. I'm sorry - it's a sucky situation. Is there anything you can do today to distract you? Shopping, massage, pedicure, walk in the park?

@anonysquire: Good idea. A walk always helps me when I'm feeling out of sorts.