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@jennlin821: fmla doesn’t cover bereavement unfortunately
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@jennlin821: I like your fight and inside that is totally what I am doing...
I don't think they'd fire me if I didn't show up on Monday..
I am sitting here and I know I should probably just go talk to my boss and be direct, like say well as you KNOW hr told me I get no bereavement days but I have to go to the funeral on Monday and I don't have any vacation days so what do I do??
however, bc I am so mad (about the predicament I am in) and sad about the death/possibly missing the funeral I know I probably can't keep my emotions in check and I really don't want to yell or melt down into a crying puddle and I'm pretty sure that if I go in that is exactly what will happen and I so don't want to do that.
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Pretty sure my boss changed the manual to 0 for spouse's grandparent. But it is also at his discretion to decide. If he allows it, it is up to 4 days. Ugh. My DH's grandmother is very ill and for some reason I was sure I got 3 days. Oof.
I'm very sorry for your loss. As others have said, I would just say I'm taking the day. Pay me or don't. I'd put it all in writing. You are a long term employee.
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@Ajsmommy: Write down exactly what you want to say, then say it out loud (if you can....not if you are in a cubicle farm
, or read it slowly to yourself)
Then decide to send it via email or to talk to you boss.There really is no discussion that needs to happen. Its not a negotiation. You will not be in next Monday and Tuesday, as you are a salaried position you expect to be paid.
DO NOT OFFER ANY APPOLOGIES, OR ALTERNATE PLANS.
you are not taking time off to go to aruba. Family always come first, there is nothing else to talk about.
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@Ajsmommy: I'd be amazed if a company fired someone over this, but I wouldn't be surprised about docked pay. That's what happens in AZ school districts if you don't have enough days to cover your absences.
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My company allows us to go into negative PTO up to a week (40 hrs) without supervisor permission. That way it's not docked pay, you just accrue back to zero. Is that an option?
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I don't get specific bereavement time, just 3 weeks PTO. I am salaried. If I was out of PTO and had to take a day off, I would take it unpaid and it wouldn't be a big deal at all. Did HR mention that as a possibility when you talked to them?
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UPDATE:
so I found that I actually have 4 hours of time left (until August).. anyway I put in to take it Monday morning. The funeral is at 10 am.I will go to the funeral and then leave and drive 2+ hrs back to work for 4 hrs..... I'll leave the kids with DH and his family so they can do the after funeral things
My direct boss has been avoiding me ever since I told him about the death.. real nice move.. jerk!! anyway.... he has the power to let me take the whole day but he's being such a b!tch I dont' even want to talk to him..... so anyway it is what is it.. I am THANKFUL I found I had 4 measly hours left so I can at least attend the funeral.....
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I didn’t see if you responded previously so sorry if you already answered, but can you not take the remainder of the day unpaid?
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@Jennibenni: I don't think I answered.. the answer is that I "can" take it.. it's frowned upon though and knowing that I have no more days until Aug makes me not want to ask now... meaning I am almost sure that something is going to come up between now and august with 2 kids and a dh that has to travel a bit in June and July and I WILL HAVE NO CHOICE but to ask then... then i'll take my lumps...
I think this whole thing is mostly bothering me bc I feel "entitled" to at least 1 bereavement day.. I don't think that's absurd or crazy to expect.. HOWEVER, obviously I dont' get one so I have to deal with it..... and I'd rather not cross the bridge into unpaid time until I literally have to.
, or read it slowly to yourself)
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