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Have you trie feeding at 9 wakeup instead of letting him xt to sleep? When I started feeding at her early wakeup, it got rid of one of the MOTN ones...

To each their own but personally I'm not comfortable making te call of my nonverbal baby needs to eat or not. My 9 month old is on tons of table food (like she can eat me under the table) and has kept her milk intake the same. Pretty sure she (like me) has a fast metabolism and is legit hungry and needs to eat every few hours (including every 5 overnight).

@Little Misters Mom: Some babies just have a hard time sleeping (like some adults). My baby was and is one of those. She is 16 months and was up no less than probably 4 times last night. She didn't sleep through the night even once until she was almost 1 (after 3 different sleep training sessions) and even now, if she has even the slightest stuffy nose or even the first sign of a new tooth, we are in for weeks of terrible sleeping.

She just isn't a good sleeper.

Can your partner help with nighttime wakings? Eventually, my husband and I learned to split the night wakings so we both got a little more sleep. But even now, when we have a particularly rough patch of sleep, we snap at each other a lot because we're both exhausted (last night was one of those nights).

Anyway, I hope it doesn't depress you, but eventually you just get used to it. I was still not used to it at 6 months. In fact, 4-11 months was the hardest because I was back at work, doing everything "right", as you described, had already sleep trained....and my baby just kept regressing. Every time.

Even now, she puts herself to sleep (I can just lay her down and walk away), she's off breastmilk....but her sleep is still shit.

ETA: we didn't drop her night time feeds until 11 months. She was one of those that would get hungry at night and still can't go 12 hours without eating (she gets a 5 am milk now).

I'm not sure what to tell you but we are at the same point. We've done CIO countless times and it literally seems to get worse night by night. I told my husband I can't take it anymore, we have to come up with a solution. Soooo, basically just want to let you know that I'm in the same boat and I really really hope it gets better for both of us soon. Hopefully people will have some good suggestions!

@Little Misters Mom: might not be for you, but have you considered co-sleeping? When LO was 6 months old she woke every 45 minutes and would scream if I put her in the crib even when she was asleep. Putting her in bed with me was the only thing that worked for us. I would wake when she wanted to nurse, help her latch and promptly fall asleep. Kept all parties happy.

@Little Misters Mom: No. We did cio for bedtime and then we wouldn't nurse anytime before 1. This was working out for many weeks, she would nurse at 1 or even 2 sometimes, wake between 4-5, nurse, sleep til 630. That is over. Her first wake up keeps getting earlier and earlier, last night was 1055 and I know she's not hungry at that time! Her bedtime is 730. Not trying to thread jack, but just letting you know I completely understand. I would like to keep 1 feed, but I am thinking we probably have to eliminate that first feed by CIO, or I think this will keep happening. Problem is sometimes she is actually hungry when I nurse at 1. Soooo that's my only hesitation. But I would think she might redirect those calories to a different feed? Who knows. I'm clueless. Anyways, since you said he just seems to be comfort nursing maybe cio for that first wake up and see what happens. Sorry you guys are struggling too.

@ellewoods84: @Little Misters Mom: I'm just there with you ladies. Perhaps it's normal around 6 months. Growth spurt and developmental spurt. Because we've done everything the books say not to do (late bedtimes, no routine, nursing to sleep) and also have the same pattern of more and more night waking from 5 months till now at 6.5 with no sign of improvement. If you do CIO and it works will you repost and let us know? I might also put sleep on my list for Santa.

@Little Misters Mom: It sounds like you have a plan for tonight! Good luck! I think a Daddy doing the nighttime checks will be easier for everyone. We sleep trained my first at 6 months and dropped night feedings at that time as well, because the books I read suggested it was confusing to feed at one time and not another. I know it's normal for babies to still want to eat at night, but it sounds like you think deep down it is sleep related and not the need to eat. Which is what we thought as well. I know you have done sleep training to fall asleep already, but have you considered moving bedtime later? If he is sleeping 10 hours at night, then perhaps 6:15 is too early. I saw that you said you were gradually going to move it later. We didn't do an early bedtime until my son was sleeping 12 hours at night. What time would you like him to wake up in the morning if it were up to you?

@Little Misters Mom: We did CIO with checks and it went very well. My husband responded to his one wake up on the first night - checked him twice. The second night my son woke up briefly and went back to sleep quickly and STTN from that point on. We started with a 930-730 night and always woke him at 730, gradually moving bedtime closer to 8. He didn't miss the feedings. I think he woke up and needed to eat prior to that, because that is what he had always done. Hopefully the early morning wake ups is just a short phase. Have you read Ferber's book?

@Little Misters Mom: yay! I'm glad it went well and seems much better than expected! Hopefully it will only improve from here on out.

@Little Misters Mom: Glad it wasn't too bad! I'd love to know how the next few days go. We're in the same boat at 8 months (3-4 wakings/night). If we let her CIO through a waking or have DH go in to soothe her she still wakes up an hour later so I think she's genuinely hungry every 3-4 hours. We need to shift her caloric intake to the early evening and I can't decide the best method for cutting the night wakings. Hoping your story helps!

Sounds like you made great progress! My son was the same way. Tons of wake ups, but when we started sleep training he dropped the night feeds on his own. My rules in the beginning were to wait 10 minutes to see if he settled, and no feeding before 2am, then no feeding before 4am. As we ramped up on the solids he dropped MOTN wake ups entirely. And maybe only once or twice did we CIO in the middle of the night. And that was only when I knew he wasn't hungry, just pissed.