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Child free weddings seem common enough that I don't think it's something to be annoyed over...? especially considering you weren't planning to bring LO anyway

as for the rehearsal dinner, I would check with the bride

If she really phrased it by saying the baby "is not welcome" that's kind of bitchy if you ask me. She could have said something like "it would be great if you could find child care since we're planning for an adult only wedding". But honestly I always think nursing mothers should be the exception to a no kids rule.

@MamaMoose: I agree with all of this, except I don't think it should be limited to nursing moms but all newborns.

ETA Also, if a bride/groom insists on inviting a newborn mama and not the baby, it should be made clear WAY in advance, ESPECIALLY if one of the baby's parents is in the wedding.. Sounds like a pretty self centered bride IMO.

@googly-eyes: you're absolutely right.

I agree that if she actually said it like that, it's a bit rude, but honestly, I didn't want any children at my wedding either, of any age. Some babies cry, a lot. (And my own DD would have screamed the entire time at 5 weeks old.) I think it's up to each couple planning a wedding to decide whether to include children or not, but they need to be able to accept that some parents of very young children may not be able to attend as a result of an adults-only function. Luckily, you have child-care, so it doesn't seem like it will be an issue.