I am so lucky to be a bonus mom to the cutest kid on the planet. I am not so lucky that she hates my husband, her sons father.

Without getting into the whole back story here is my recent aggravation and I just need to get it out.

DH and her have been going backhand forth fighting over custody for months. In May the court finally told her that what is best for the child is what he is used to, which meant custody staying with my husband. He agreed to give her more over nights on his own. She should have been appreciative in my opinion, but she isn't. Basically, the gesture went unnoticed and they have been back in court 9 times this year!!! Never having anything change, because the court keeps repeating themselves, that it's best for my bonus son to stick to the routine he knows. Well she has once again filed for court. We knew this was happening. She has once again decided to fight because he spends more time with me than with her. She also refuses to acknowledge that him spending time with his brother is important for him. I understand that having another woman care for your child must be tough, but she brought all of this upon herself.

Here's the reason I'm angry about this. She has a court date set for next Tuesday. This is the day before my bonus son's first day of kindergarten. She told him that he will be staying with her the night before his first day. She told him that "things will be changing" and that "it's their little secret". My bonus son told me because he was upset thinking that DH, I, and his brother won't be there to see him get on the bus. He sobbed and told me he hated her and wished that she would die.

I don't get why she would tell him any of this. It's so hard for me not to want to just punch her. Talking to a 4yr old about custody battles in anyway seems totally psycho to me. She causes him so much confusion and pain every time he sees her (currently Tuesday and Thursday for a few hours and every other weekend).

I'm not sure where I was even going with this post. I'm just so pissed and needed an appropriate outlet, rather than saying I wanted to hit her on Facebook Thanks for listening.