Here I am again for more advice, only this time it's for our newest addition, our daughter who is 8 Months old.
Have any of you gone through sleep training a kiddo, going from one extreme to the other? For us, right now it goes like this: E cosleeps with me and has since the beginning. It's something I don't mind, but ever since that lovely sleep regression that hit at about 3 months, sleep just doesn't come easy.
During the night she has several wake ups, but I cannot count them since they're often quick and she falls back asleep with a paci or breast. During the day it's much harder. She only sleeps in the carrier and even then it's hard. With a 4 year old running around, it's not very quiet. So, that coupled with the regression, her naps can be 10 to 30 minutes. Occasionally I can get her to sleep in the swing, but only if I really prepare for it -- and then she sleeps the same amount of time. Needless to say I've been on the schedule of "Lets just make it through this." For a while now I've just chalked it up to "my kids just aren't good sleepers" since her brother was much the same, and still doesn't sleep that great. However, I am starting to think differently. And now that I'm a mother of two and more "broken in" to motherhood, I'm more open to "crying it out" methods and other sleep training methods. We all deserve it, especially my 4 year old who could use some more one on one attention.
Alright so thanks for reading. Give me some hope -- tell me I can sleep train my well coddled babe in to being a more independent sleeper. All methods welcomed with an open mind. Much love, from this momma to you.
pomegranate / 3658 posts
Yes, you can do it! I suggest checking out the Precious Little Sleep book/blog/FB group.
nectarine / 2987 posts
Yep. I coslept and swaddled and paci-ed and nursed my son until 6 months and then we did ferber. I coslept and nursed on demand with my daughter from 6-18 months and then did gentle sleep training with her (she was an ironically good newborn sleeper and ferber did not work for her). Between the two of them in various stages I think we've done just about everything. And now we have two kids who put themselves to sleep and sleep all night in their own beds. You can do it!
apricot / 322 posts
@PawPrints: @MrsSRS: Thank you both for your response. I will look in to both methods! This feels like a big mountain to climb since she just screams and cries when I put her down anywhere when she's tired.
I'm thinking of tackling naps first and then perhaps bed time. From what I've gathered, consistency is the most important thing, and sticking with the habits day after day to establish the routine. Of course, it's another thing when you're living it and feel for that poor babe crying away in the room. Sigh. Still I march on.
nectarine / 2987 posts
@PixieStix: *hugs* I will say that the gentler sleep training methods took much longer and ultimately more energy. Ferber was harder to listen to, but worked much faster.
pomegranate / 3127 posts
Yeah. My daughter's sleep issues were more than I could handle. I co-slept from about 14-16 months out of desperation, and then when that didn't help, I sleep trained - also out of desperation. I guess it wasn't conventional sleep training, she wasn't alone at any point - DH was next to her until she fell asleep - he would just refuse to pick her up or do any midnight partying.
apricot / 322 posts
@MrsSRS: I think I'm more in a "Ferber" mindset at the moment. I'm done with my own "I'll deal with it later" attitude. But I won't rule out any method. If Ferber-ish ways don't work after a week or so, I'll figure something else out. I long for the days where I can put two kids to bed and have time with my husband. Did I mention I'm tackling sleep training my 4 year old as well? It's a mess. Maybe I'm crazy but I'm determined now. My 4 year old was doing fairly well until little E was born. I think his best sleep was about a 10 day streak of sleeping in his room all night without needing us. So, I know he's capable. I'm more unsure about little E at this point.
@Mama Bird: I like that idea as well. I have her crib in the master room at the moment. Hubby sleeps in the guest room because he has his own sleep issues, and a CPAP. And then big N (my 4 year old) has his own room. I was thinking of trying your method if little E just can't stand being along.