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I feel for you because I know you want this so badly. A few things to think about-- is the money situation temporary? Do you have a bunch of business coming up that will enable you to get back on solid financial ground by your birthday? Would you be able to afford another kid right now?

How does your body handle stress and anxiety during pregnancy? Does it make it worse?

If it's a temporary situation I'd go for it. If it looks like you will have to find another job or make major life changes I would hold off. You don't want to sacrifice your health, energy, and stability and that of your children for a hypothetical.

I think only you can know what is right in this situation bc for me just the thought of 3 kids is panic inducing. But that is me! As PP's said I'd take a day or at least some serious time to let yourself sit back and process everything.. give yourself a few quiet hours to put things in perspective. Is the job/money shortage temporary? Will you be in a better place in a few months or no? Is it worth it to waste the injections and time already spent on this cycle? If yes for your mental health then by all means skip.. but only you can make that decision. What does the big picture/longer haul look like? What do the next 4-6 months look like? Will things look up and get easier or will they be more of a struggle and being PG might not be ideal???

I'm sorry, that sounds rough, all of it. I think I'd put TTC on hold in your shoes... For what it's worth, I got pregnant with our third at a really bad time. Things were going wrong left and right (seriously ill family members, a rough pregnancy, work stuff as usual). It was very hard, but we got through it. But financially, we were doing OK. If there was also financial uncertainty in the picture, I don't think I'd have gone for a third. That's where I draw the line between what I can handle, and what makes me panic. Whether rightly or not, my mind goes pretty quickly from "our expenses for May were higher than our wages" to "OMG what if we have nowhere to live?" Adding a maternity leave to an already financially shaky situation... I'd just be scared to go there unless it looked like the financial stuff is temporary.

I’m sorry you are in this position it is so difficult when the brain and heart do not agree. I’m hoping you feel better either way you decide - feeling anxious and awful is in and of itself such a difficult thing to endure.