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@ladybee: That looks pretty positive to me!
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@spaniellove: @marionberry: I'm so excited to finally get a positive on something!!! DH is looking at me like I'm nuts but I knew you guys would understand!
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@ladybee: There has to be some kind of thrill every month! If I didn't have the thrill of positive OPKs what would I have? This is sad.
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@ladybee: Yay!
Question to all: If you were temping around 6 before daylight savings, you have to temp at 5 now right?!
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Nevermind, FF says not to adjust it...dang I did today. Guess I won't tomorrow.
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@ladybee: Congrats on your positive OPK! Even if it is at a really weird time in the cycle!! You were wishing for AF so you could start over but, instead, you've been givien the gift of starting over mid-cycle! Get BDing quick!!
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Hi ladies! Just checking in!
@marionberry: YEAH for waiting to O being done this cycle, good work!!! COME ON JENNYRENNY!!! Beautiful temp spike today!!! Let the TWW begin!
@ladybee: I am SO CONFUSED on your behalf about what's going on with the Oing. Maybe the monitor was confused? Or your body geared up to O but didn't? Ah well, I agree with @cherrybee, it's another shot mid-cycle!
@cherrybee: yeah for BDing!!!!
@chibee! Yeah for temps going up! When are you testing?
Hugs and his to @spaniellove, @shutterbug, @grace, everyone else
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@ladybee: yeah positive OPK!! I think the charting gods are torturing you for trying to stop temping, haha!
@JoJoGirl: hi
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@jojogirl: well i didn't test with FMU this morning but i might test in a little bit, with SMU - not too hopeful but eh it couldn't hurt right??
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@chibee: I never had any willpower with the whole 'waiting to test' thing
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@jojogirl: apparently me neither! it's just like I wanna know one way or another!
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@ladybee: That's what it is! @Shutterbug: is right!! It's because you decided to stop temping - you're being taught a lesson!! Lol.
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@chibee: Okay so when is your SMU coming?!! Drink water!! Haha. I'm a pusher. We all know this.
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this weekend was a weird one and i need some advice/thoughts but please be gentle....
If i was going to continue taking my BC i would have started a new pack on Friday. hubs and i had discussed family planning over the last few months and while he was a bit hesitant he was on board. I think that with me not starting a new pack it all became "real" to him.
He got cold feet , Saturday night after going to a couple halloween parties down town (at friends apts) I was driving us home he had had a few drinks and I think he got the courage to be honest with me about our recent decision. Things got intense and he felt very strongly about not starting ttc. I wont go into his specific reasoning but he's not a huge fan of the unknown and was fearful about how things might change. I told him that i wanted him to be excited and happy if we got pregnant. He told me he would feel resentful. by the time we got home i was upset and disappointed but understood and being a responsible person told him i respected his thoughts and if this wasnt the right time, fine. I needed him to be on board. So i opened a new pack of pills and took 2 (friday & Saturday) expecting that i would just be back on my pills.
Yesterday I was in a mood and he went to the family shore house with his parents to start the clean up efforts. Last night he says "I did a lot of thinking today, I think i overreacted and it would be ok if we got pregnant and had a baby" And he wants to NTNT, if it happens it happens.
So now what? do i believe him? Is this month shot and do i need to finish my pack? If i don't take any more pills will if affect my current chart? Did anyone else have husbands who were reluctant to start TTC or were less ready than you were?
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@Chillybear: Oy, sorry to hear about the back and forth.
I think it's normal for guys to get cold feet. It took us like 6 months of negotiations to both feel ready, and there was a lot of wavering in that time!I think it's okay if you stop taking the pills, it shouldn't affect your chart TOO much (I stopped mid-pack, which I know they don't recommend.. but once he said let's go, I was NOT going to take another pill after that! Haha!). Can you guys negotiate another form of birth control until you're sure he's ready, since the pill is sort of a commitment? Maybe switch to condoms or something else in the meantime until you're sure he's sure?
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My husband was hesitant, and we talked about it a loooot while still preventing - probably from like, November to April, when we pulled the goalie.
I think you should talk to him about it some more, bringing up the things he said when he was drunk, and stop the pills and maybe use condoms for this month so you can get a hang of charting. You can tell him that you want to be off BCP so that you can get to understand your cycle, either for avoiding or TTC.
One thing that DH and I talked a lot about was that it will never not be scary to make a new human, and we'll never totally be ready or 100% excited all of the time in the process. But you also don't want to feel like either one of you is being coerced or rushed by the other.
Good luck!
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The other thing we talked about a lot was deciding to start TTC didn't automatically = baby arrives. We took comfort in the fact that when I got a BFP, we would still have 8 months to prepare mentally and emotionally for it to actually get here. That's a pretty good lag time!
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@Chillybear: I think @jojogirl's advice about using condoms for a while is a really good idea. You know, just in case. It took my DH a while to get emotionally on board. When he saw that it this wasn't going to be an oops thing or an instant change and it was going to take a lot of work to get where we wanted to go, he started getting more invested in it. Now that we've spent months going to doctors' appointments, he would give anything for a BFP to happen already. Your DH will come around!
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In the entire span of our relationship i have always been the one driving it forward... I've always been ready for things first, moving in together, getting engaged, house hunting, adopting a dog, ttc.... he says that while having been hesitant to leap into those things at first he has no regrets.
We started talking about TTC over a year ago when we found out my cousin, a good friend and his brother and SIL were all pregnant. We decided at that time to wait until after my best friends wedding before ttc ( that was 10/6/12). In april when i was coming off my psoriasis meds we discussed it again. We had a plan, we were sticking to it.... In August we discussed it again I was going to stop taking BC labor day weekend, but that was when we found out he lost his job. In my mind it was just a setback until he found a new job, i think at the time he felt like he dodged a bullet.
this might be TMI but last night things were getting hot and heavy and i asked him at least 3 times are you sure about this and he said yes....didnt want to use alternative methods
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@jojogirl: Thank you so much for your kind words! I hope Jenny Renny is right and the good temp spike today helps. Thanks for checking in on me as always!
@chillybear: I agree with the other girls. You can stop your pill now but maybe use some other protection until you guys have passed a bit of time and are still feeling the same way. You don't want him to regret it after it happens...I doubt he would, he's probably just scared, but just give it a bit of time to make sure his decision sticks. -
@Chillybear: I stopped my BCP by mistake because I'd forgotten to take my pills away with us when we went camping. I was off them for three days and decided that I wanted to bring TTC forward 10 months. Well, it took a few days for DH to decide so I ended up going back on my pill for five days then stopping again! I can report that bled twice in two weeks and the second one was quite painful but, all in all, I don't think it did me any harm: we got a BFP on our first cycle regardless. That pregnancy ended in m/c but it's so common - I don't think my crazy pill antics caused it. So I'd say just stop taking your pill now.
As for your DH, it sounds like he had a wobble and is feeling better again now.... is he the sort of guy to say yes when he really means no - especially given that he went through the pain barrier of saying no to you on Saturday night, it's not like the HAD to change his mind back, is it?
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@chillybear: My husband goes back and forth on everything. And like you, I've always been the one to move things forward. It took him 6 months to get comfortable enough to start trying. I agree with everyone else, go off the pill and use condoms for the time being. I recommend giving yourself time to regulate after BC anyways.
@cherryberry: This is a blessing, a midcycle blessing. God so wants Jenny Renny to be right he is giving us another chance!
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ladies, random TMI tidbit of info. If I didn't have the positive OPK I would SWEAR I was pregnant. My nipples are super sensitive to the point of hurting. This is not typical for me. Typically I can not feel my nipples (due to a surgery) so this is throwing me for a loop!
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@ladybee: Have you taken a HPT recently? On POAS.com they have some complicated explanation why OPKs can sometimes double at HPT. I know due to your CM and temps you're more likely ovulating now, but just checking. Also hormones go crazy when you're ovulating so that could explain the nipple thing.
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@ladybee I was thinking what @jojogirl mentioned too.... (http://www.peeonastick.com/opkhpt.html) but I know you've been getting BFNs... what kind of HPTs are you using?
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@ladybee: I had that same thought about the OPK/HPT thing but then saw you recently POAS. I've heard of people complaining about hormones gone wild when their cycles go on longer and O is delayed.
Just in case my chances are any better this cycle because of the HSG, we decided to BD every day. Woohoo!
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@spaniellove: That's a lot of BD! I hope your HSG really works and brings you a baby. My OB said they were really good at helping people get pregnant even though they're intended to be diagnostic. Crossing my fingers for you!
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@marionberry: I'm not sure if it will really do anything because my tubes were open to begin with, but it wouldn't be the first time we've BD every day during my fertile time. At least it'll be over by Thursday!
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@spaniellove: I thought you meant BD every day of the month. Silly me. That's much better.
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@marionberry: OMG BD every day of the month. Crossing my legs just thinking about it!
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@chillybear: i had the same issue starting out - DH was reluctant because he was afraid of the huge life change it would bring. we are still TTC but i know i'm way more into it than he is, although he has started to come around. i don't know what kind of advice i have for you - so i'm just sharing my story. if i were more mature and patient, i would tell him that i'd wait until he was completely and totally as into ttc as i am and then start, but to be honest i don't know if he'd ever be as into it as i am, and i don't know how long that wait would be. so we both just agreed to start, and this is my third cycle. your DH seems more in agreement - i say go along with it.
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@ladybee: Hahaha!!! I love the idea that God wants Jenny Renny to be right!!! Hilarious!
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temp drop at 13 dpo. boo! looks like AF will be right on time for me.
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@chibee: Aww! I'm so sorry.
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@chibee: Oh nooooooooo. I'm so sorry Chibee. That's completely rubbish.
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@chibee: I'm sorry
Well guys, I am POAS tomorrow morning because the sore breasts continued today as did the frequent urination. Hopefully I get the answer I want. I don't know about when I O'd, I feel at this point its a guess anywhere in my cycle. My plan is to POAS Wed, Friday, Sunday, repeat and if by next Sunday I'm still getting BFN and no AF I'll ask for blood work. I've got my self convinced I'm pregnant. I really hope I'm not wrong!
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@ladybee: Ooh, good luck! I hope you see two lines!
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After months of ovulating on CD14, I got an early positive OPK today! I'm not sure whether I'm O'ing today or tomorrow, but I guess either one means the BD-fest can end earlier. Also, I don't know if it was because of the HSG but my O cramps were so much milder this cycle.
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@spaniellove: maybe something different is a good sign! The bd session always wears us out!
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@ladybee: oh good luck!!! Positive lines wishes coming your way!!
I think it's normal for guys to get cold feet. It took us like 6 months of negotiations to both feel ready, and there was a lot of wavering in that time!
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