An acquaintance of ours recently had her husband ask for a divorce after only a couple years of marriage. She further found out that he's been cheating on her since before they were even married. They have two very young children. I find myself thinking about her everyday and so sad. I know stuff like this happens all the time, but I can't imagine going about life happily not realizing there was any problem and then all of a sudden being hit with a bombshell like this. Picking up the pieces as a single parent with 2 very young kids. It's so sad. I'm not sure what the point of this post it, but I sure wish I knew a way to help. It breaks my heart 
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Help her move on and not dwell on this painful part of her marriage/ life. Help her to not be vindictive during the divorce- asset split, custody etc. Help her by being a listening ear. Help her by being a shopping buddy as she rebuilds her home. Help her by taking an interest in her children and their activities as she mow solo parents.
Cheating- deceit and betrayal- hurts to the core. Don't let it ruin her and become bitter.
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@Beyond2: I would second Mrs. Lemon-Lime---especially the taking an interest in the children part. Being a single parent is HARD and she's going to need a village. Even when you are overwhelmed with your own life, take a minute to remember that she'll now be doing it all solo and offer to do day care pick up or drop off once a week, or offer to take her kids on Saturday mornings 1-2 times a month for 2-3 hours so she can run errands alone (ie, a million times faster), cook them a freezer meal and drop it off, etc.
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@Beyond2: Just don't disappear on her . . . so many friends who got divorced dealt with a rapidly shrinking pool of friends, almost as if divorce was/is contagious.
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That's terrible.
I agree with everyone about being there for her and helping her get through this. Just don't get in the middle of the divorce... just offer help with the little things like help watch her kids for an hour or so so she can go grocery shopping without them. Or offer to get her groceries on your way over. You'd be amazed at how far that goes. I single parented my two boys for 3 months straight b/c my husband had to leave for his new job out of the country first and I have to tell you that every little thing was nice. I also enjoyed just having someone come over to chat while the kids played. Helped keep my sanity most days.
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That is awful. Just be there for her.
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This is terrible, I would just be the friend that is there for whatever she needs & for sure help out with the parenting when/if you can. Any help will feel incredible to her, solo parenting has to be one of the hardest things to do.
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I think it's important not to project your (general) feelings onto the situation and just let her take the lead in terms of how she feels. It's okay to feel however you feel, but it shouldn't be the basis on how you guide your help, if that makes sense.
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Hugs for your friend. My best friend is going through a divorce right now. Her ex-husband cheated on her before their second anniversary. They reconciled, then some tough life stuff happened, and he started cheating again ahead of their 5th anniversary.
As her best friend, I've been there for her regardless. I didn't like her husband, but never said it to her. Throughout the divorce process, I've sent cards and gifts every couple of weeks. Just be there to listen to her and her needs. She lost a lot of friends with the divorce. I wouldn't never give up on her regardless of spouse. I text my best friend often. Throughout the tough parts of the divorce, I make sure to text or call her weekly so she knows that she's not alone.
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I agree with everything @Mrs. Lemon-Lime said!! You're a wonderful friend ... Just be there to support her.
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