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I don't even understand how this is an issue in today's world. Do these people just live under a rock?

I haven't seen the commercial, but I am not surprised. As someone in an interracial marriage and the mother of a biracial child, it's nice to seebroader representations of families in advertising. While we've made it socially unacceptable to be publicly expressly racist, please don't think that negative feelings about various racial groups have gone away. My husband and I have experienced enough things both together and separately to know this.

Also it's not the older generation. There were several news articles about racist/hate speech directed toward our current President after last year's election. Those tweets weren't criticizing his policies, and they were by high school kids and young adults. It makes me sad as these will be the "older generation" when my kid is older.

@ladyfingers: Word.

@Mrs. Polish: I don't think some people would have issue with your family. If anything it might feed their racist beliefs/stereotypes of Black people as unfit or inadequate parents (i.e. Black welfare Queen with multiple children/Absentee Black father images/stereotypes). Your family would be lauded (as it should be) instead of vilified.

@BKCaribBaby: so much word.

@ladyfingers: Oh man, I remember all of that nonsense with Rue and the Hunger Games. What book were these people reading?!?!

@plantains: Basically, some stupid guys who walked past my DH and LO (in her stroller) commented very loudly about how dark that side of the street was and that they should cross to the other side. I was really sad that they said that shit in front of my baby, not that she could understand, but still.

@Anagram: I hadn't heard about this. Ridiculous!

@mrsjazz: omg I love her response!

@BKCaribBaby: agreed.

People think racism does not exist any more? Think again. People have just gotten better at masking it bc it's no longer socially acceptable. As the Asian in a inter racial marriage we have gotten our fair share of "looks" even in a big city like NYC.

First time someone says something to my child they will get a earful from me!

To answer your OP I didn't even know there was a Cheerios controversy!

@Mrs. Polish: I havent seen this commercial. How come people are complaining about it?

@mrsjazz: that makes me sick! so sorry you & your family had to experience that.

I'm glad Cheerios made the commercial and hope that more businesses continue to advertise as they should... to all families not just white, heterosexual ones!

@mrsjazz: That is just so awful. I can't believe that anyone would say that in front of an LO. I don't even know how one deals with a situation like that. Your DH is admirable for being cool, I would have lost it. What really sucks is that as they get older and can eventually understand, we have to figure out how to explain it to them.

@regberadaisy: @Mrs. Polish: Thanks for updating me. I am surprised this commericial would ignite such a response. I thought everyone was much more open minded

@Mrs. Polish: Aren't we all just people? Do people act a certain way just because they look closer to a certain race? I wouldn't know what to do with that comment either.

I will say that I had black friends in high school who didn't really want anything to do with me after they found out I was mixed.

@BKCaribBaby: @ladyfingers: @mrsjazz: I thought of Hunger Games too. It was absolutely astonishing how many young, "normal" people were tweeting that they were mad that Rue was an N-word. I wish this kind of thing was only on the fridges, but bigotry is alive and well. The internet just facilitates it.

@Mrs. Polish: Identity is hard as a person of color no matter what, though adoption adds a layer for sure. DH is black but has been told he is not "black enough" because he likes skiing and The Fray, haha. I joke but it was very hard for him when he was younger, and he has two African-American parents who raised him to be proud of his heritage, so its something Isaiah would deal with to some degree regardless. He's blessed to have loving and supportive parents who will help him be exactly who he is.

I'd highly recommend a book called "Why Do All The Black Kids Sit Together In The Cafeteria?" It might be hard to read (it was for me & I'm half Hispanic) but it's great food for thought.

@Mrs. Polish: White on the inside is an Oreo. Don't even try to fight it because it an absolutely stupid comment. I have been called Oreo my entire life and I other things to basically suggest I am less black. I am not pretending to be someone or something I am not. @evansjamie: Sorry people stopped being your friend. I don't think it's appearance , but I think people act and speak a certain way based on their surroundings. There were 5 black girls in my elementary grade, two of were biracial. We all had long hair. Well one of the biracial girls I got a relaxer in 4th or 5th grade and declared to the rest of us full black girls we would have to get one too. We asked her why? She told I us if she since she was half-white and needed one then we definitely would need one. The silliness is on all sides. I know for certain two of us never got a relaxer and the third just had a keratin treatment to tame her super thick, but "mixed" texture hair.

@Mrs. Polish: Respectfully, I'd say that Isaiah IS different. Being adopted makes him different, and being black with white parents makes him different. Difference isn't bad - it's special! But it is something that will affect him so it makes sense to be prepared.

I babysat for two kids that were black with white parents, and they really liked the book "It's Okay To Be Different." They would ask to read it and I think it made them feel special and proud!

@daniellemybelle: I can imagine it was hard for your DH. I went to very wealthy predominantly white high school but lived in a majority black working class neighborhood. I had to be able to code switch and survive in both worlds, which wasn't always fun or easy. Let's just say that I would comfortable at both a Jay-Z and a Coldplay concert. Great book recommendation, btw.

@Mrs. Polish: Who told you that?! That is beyond weird. In addition to Danielle's book, I would also recommend an article called "White Privilege: Unpacking the Invisible Knapsack" by Peggy McIntosh. I know the title is odd, but it might be some further food for thought.

@daniellemybelle: @BKCaribBaby: very eloquent description of your experiences. I never quite learned how to switch it up, so I stay mum around most black folks.

@BKCaribBaby: He's definitely better off for it! He can code switch for sure, but I think he is really secure in his own identity now because of his experiences! And oh man, DH is all about the invisible knapsack, haha. He references it in his diversity work all the time. I guess I need to go ahead and read that book so I know what he's talking about!

@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: Yeah, I replied to @ZippyLeaf that I need to watch more TV! And as I already said, I definitely agree that its ridiculous the way people are reacting. Don't know if you were replying to me specifically about not knowing which kids belong to which parent regardless of race, but of course I dont either. How could you possibly? Hope there hasn't been a miscommunication between us!