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Following!! I'm concerned also about the toll it'll take on us in terms of household balance, how we will manage to get everything done.

I felt the exact same way before we became a family of four (and I'll even admit sometimes in that frist month when I was figuring out how to take care of both kids I asked myself- why did we do this!?!) Things just have a way of working themselves out though. It takes some time but you eventually figure out how to take care of both kids, and your spouse. I got the advice if both kids are crying/ melting down take care of your oldest first and get them situated them move onto the baby. We did lots of snuggling together while I was feeding the baby, and let my son be a helper in a lot of things with she first came (and even now too!)
The adjustment period takes some time- but it's totally amazing once you get there!!

I wasn't worried about LO adjusting or any emotional aspects of having 2, but I did have concerns about routines and household balance issues. I leave quite early for work and then I solo parent every night till right when the girls are ready for bed, so I take on the lion's share of unpacking daycare cups/bowls/bags, making dinner, repacking all the daycare stuff, making dinner for us, giving baths, getting PJs on, etc. I was worried about how I'd do that with two, and you just figure it out.

You have a hard first week or two, and then you figure out how to do it, and your kids' expectations are adjusted and it ends up being totally fine.

My 2.5 year old LOVES having a baby sister and is so loving and caring 95% of the time towards the baby. And I still put her to bed the same amount as before, because their bedtimes are slightly staggered (baby at 7:30 pm, LO1 at 8 pm.

We also hired a nanny (not totally sure if she's working out), but that has cut down on the amount of daycare stuff I have to prepare, because now only LO1 attends daycare.

I'm terrified that I will resent my older child for spoiling precious times with my newborn (even though I know in my head that there was nothing blissful about the newborn days at all). The sound of a baby crying triggers my anxiety so I will really struggle to see to the toddler first, even though I know it makes sense.

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It's funny - I never felt guilty about rocking LO1s world. If anything, I feel guilty that I cant devote a similar amount of focus to LO2 as I did to LO1. But mostly, I think both boys will be better for having a brother. LO1 will learn that not everything revolves around him (a good lesson!) and will learn to love his brother the way he loves his parents. LO2 will always have a brother to look up to, and will learn so much from him.

I think the key is just remembering that this is a huge transition and giving LO1 a little more understanding during it.

I had so much anxiety about introducing a new baby before #2 arrived. I was up at night worrying about it.
Seeing #1 love on #2 made all those worries go away. Watching her become a loving big sister has made me love her even more. When they hug each other or play together it makes me so glad we did have more kids.
Now with #3 it's even stronger. Seeing my girls be warm and loving to this little baby and seeing how they unconditionally love her makes me so proud of the people they are becoming.
Honestly it's hard some days, but the best thing in the world.

It's crazy, I fought so hard to have no. 2 when we were considering just having one kid, and then things didn't work it the way I expected at all. Logistically it's not that hard to go from 1 to 2, I thought it would be harder! But emotionally is something else. I still feel guilty that I'm depriving DS of attention, and resented DD for a long time because no one ever stepped up to even hold her so I could play with DS. It's like my family thought that now that she's born, she's my only child and DS is the responsibility of DH and day care. But that's a weird situation that most people probably don't deal with, and I tried hard not to let the kids see how upset I am while it was happening. They love each other so much though, and I love seeing this bond develop between them, so no regrets now.

I too worry about this since DS is a HUGE mommy's boy. However, I know he loves babies so I'm hoping that will help alleviate some of my worries. That he'll love his baby sister through and through and will be super helpful. However, I feel bad more so for DD than DS since she gets hand me downs (not that she'll know any different), won't get the quality one-on-one time I had with DS growing up, etc. Crossing my fingers everything will fall into place on its own since we totally "winged" it with DS also.

I actually feel less anxiety about adding #2 but that may change as we get closer. I think just like you had to adjust to a new normal when you went from 0 to 1 you will adjust to a new normal with 2. Everything gets easier as time goes on and you may not get as much time with #1 at first but you will get back there! The early days are a blip in the grand scheme. You'll be just fine mama!

I also think about how sad I was when we were considering being one and done, that LO would never have a sibling.

The other thing that I think about is that LO won't really remember the only days (he'll be 3.5 when LO2 arrives). It is definitely going to be a huge transition, but I think he will very quickly forget that things used to be different.

@erinbaderin: my brother and I have the same gap and it really didn't rock his world, according to my mom (though memories are kind!) he was curious and a little standoffish at first (I was a LOUD baby) but he quickly wanted to tend to me and play with me. He would entertain me on the floor, showing me all his toys, and I started walking VERY early because he was always trying to get me to stand up and walk around. He was so proud of me and we were inseparable. My mom says she never punished my brother for things he did to me, unless he was intentionally malicious. If he tried to pick me up when he wasn't supposed to or something like that, she just explained that he needed to ask or wait for her or whatever, but she didn't feel like anything except blatant malicious warranted punishment.

She also said that she did not necessarily to tend to LO1 first, but that she got LO1 used to waiting while she was pregnant, so that if she needed him to wait a minute while she was doing something with LO2, it wasn't earth shattering to him.