Now that Mother's Day has passed, I have to confess: I'm a little confused about who's supposed to celebrate whom.

Do you primarily celebrate it for your own Mom/MIL (like how it was before you had a baby) or does the focus change to you once you have a baby? I guess I'm trying to figure out if it's common for husbands to shift the focus on their wives on Mother's Day or or is it just an add-on to their own Mother's celebrations?

Do you expect your husband to celebrate you (the mother of his children) or his own mother or both? Who has priority?

I'm asking because it's been tradition to celebrate Mother's Day at my MIL's house. Am I supposed to resume tradition once our LO is born? Or will she always have this holiday until my babies are old enough to throw something for me?

As for my own Mom, I send her a card and a gift (she lives far away). But even if she lived close-by, she wouldn't expect us to visit her on the day of. She's already congratulated me on Mother's Day and the LO isn't even here yet. She's a lot more understanding when it comes to these things, so it's not an issue with her.

How do you do it? Who gets dibs on Mother's Day? Or do you have one big celebration and share it together?