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I would use it since you like the name unless there are other middle name options you like just as well. Your kid probably won't be aware for the dysfunctional stuff for a very long time. And I would just let MIL enjoy it, she'd prob just talk it up with her friends or strangers. Unless your families know each other well and live in the same town? And your parents would be annoyed with her comments?

@mrscobee: use it if it ends up being your fav pick for middle name unless you think MIL will annoy you too much! Haha!

We gave my son my dad's name as a middle name but we have a good relationship with him and knew they would be close. My nephew also has the same middle name. I think if the family members are not quite as beloved to you, you might rethink it because it seems like it would look like you're naming him after them. But really, you have to choose the name you want and if you're sure you can deal with MIL comments maybe you should stick with it!

We named our first the same name as DH's grandfather and my great-grandfather because it was a family name on both sides. When he was first born all I ever heard was that he was named after DH's grandfather with no recognition that it was a family name for me too. In my postpartum state I was super annoyed but now I don't care. If you like the name, go with it and let people think or assume what they may. Its probably not going to be a hot topic of conversation forever.

What about your brother? Is it a name he would want to use for his own kids? I have a cousin who did this and took her brother's name which is also my uncles name. My boy cousin had a baby the following year and said screw it I'm naming my son after me and my Dad. So now we have 4 of them with the same name. Which is confusing at times. LOL

Yep. The comments from MIL would seriously annoy me.

And what @turkeylurkey: said! I too would consider the fact that your brother may want to pass on his middle name if he has a son someday without factoring in that his son would be sharing the middle name with his cousin. My SIL did that and it seriously irked me - although in our case they didn't have history with the name on both sides like you do. But still, DH wanted to pass on his name and I didn't want cousins with matching names, and it put us in a hard spot.

@wonderstruck: I didn't even consider consulting my sister when I gave my son the same middle name as her son. I wouldn't have given him the same first name but I think middle names are often family names and used a lot. I have two cousins with my middle name (named after great grandma) and I think it's a cool connection.