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I use the term "my husband" or his first name in regular conversation, so I will continue to do that here. I see the point of using inclusive language, but I am not changing what I call him.

I personally do not like "LO" because I do not remember if everyone has a son or daughter.

I'll probably stick to DH, since I'm already in the habit of it.

I started off calling mine "Eric," because I'm sensitive about inclusive language (I guess) because of Ellie, and I'm not a fan of going with the herd. But then switched to Mr. T because, you KNOW we pity da 'foos at our house And I am just looking for an excuse to photoshop him with some gold bling. He has even given me permission because he is awesome like that. When I was a teenager I used to mix Mr. Pibb and Iced Tea and drink it just so I could call it, "Mr. Tea."

@Cherrybee: Cherrypops! I love it!

hmmm... Mister Cakes? haha

@Fronkinzankinsbride: Yeah, these are my thoughts exactly. If I'm asking a general question I try to be sensitive to the diversity of the community and use SO, but if I'm talking about MY husband I say DH (even though I think it's cheesy...it's easy to type) because that's what he is....

Forgive me if I'm missing the point here....

I'm an ally of the gay community and a huge proponent of equal rights, but I don't think referring to my husband as my husband is exclusive. It would be exclusive for me to expect everyone on HB to have a DH, hence why I use SO when speaking more generally but, IMO, just avoiding the term DH as a means of promoting inclusivity seems to miss the mark.

@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I guess I'm confused what the point of this thread is. The first explanation you gave - "Recently, there was a post about ways the community can be more inclusive of the LGBTQ members. Using DH less was suggested." is sort of irrelevant to the explanation you gave me...

"If you read through the comments from the original post there were some ladies who brought up that depending on the topic the D in DH was used sarcastically. I was inspired by that post to find a more creative way of referring to my husband that could be used in any context."

I read through all of the original thread...several times, because I was confused by all the responses "oops I call my hubby DH, I'll try to be more mindful." I don't know where the idea was suggested that people edit the term they use for their own significant other except as @mrbee explained above, in the abstract.

If you're frustrated with the term DH I totally support making another choice. But what does that have to do with LGBTQ members?

I've always disliked DH - I just use 'my husband'.

The Pioneer Woman has her Marlboro Man and I have my Farmer Man. I sometimes refer to him as DH because it's faster to type, but I've always felt it was kind of generic and the way I feel about him is not exactly generic.

@Mrs. Twine: bwahaha, I love a good Mr. T reference.

I've never called mine DH, it's just not our style unless the D = Damn some days. Even though I don't like spelling "my husband" out, it does remind me to be grateful for my rights, and to continue to be vocal that everyone deserves those rights despite different orientations, genders, and ethnicities. I do like the new community awareness of spouse/partner terms in general, I think it's a step in the right direction.

@Cherrybee: I lol'd at TAFKADH.