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It's still pretty early, so he has lots of time to change his mind!

For us, I caved and said ok to one more.

We're on the same page for the most part. I've been the one pushing to get pregnant sooner than later because of my age (33 right now). I always envisioned having a baby in 2012 and one again in 2014 since we got married. When we were ring shopping last week, it was the first time that DH acknowledged the 2014 baby plan to me despite more me talking about it.

I think it's great that you guys have had open talks about it! DH and I are not on the same page. We are actually the opposite of you guys- I know I am one and done, while I can tell DH wants one more. He wouldn't be heartbroken with just one, but just from some comments he has made, I can tell he will want another!

The way we are resolving it is to give ourselves 5 years. If in 5 years we both cannot get on the same page, we are one and done. However, if I change my mind within that time AND we can afford it (this is a huge obstacle we have), then we will try for #2.

We aren't on the same page either. Before having LO we agreed on 2, and even moved into what I thought (and might be) our 3 bedroom forever home. But then LO came and I knew I wanted more then 2.... more like 3-4. DH still wants 2, but he's open to having 3 if we can afford it.

Unfortunately I think for us it does make more sense to have 2. DH is right, we really can't afford that many kids, at least right now. And since pregnancy is really rough on me I'm not sure I'd be able to handle that three times. I'm willing to go twice and then adopt the next.... which is a lot of money that we don't have.

So great you guys were able to talk about it openly and honestly. E is still so young, there is tons of time for a change of heart.

For us, we want 2, but can't agree on timeline for number 2. I want to wait until L is 3 before trying again, DH is scared 'my eggs will be too old.' - His words not mine.

We're on the same page. Before I got pregnant, our plan was 2. Then after DD, we both realized how difficult it would be and had no desire to have another. But we also think it would be nice for DD to have a sibling and it might be something we'd regret down the line. So we're officially undecided and no longer in the one and done camp. For us, there's an extra complication and it's age - I'm getting old!

We are in a disagreement currently. He wants another. I would be okay having an only. But nothing is set in stone!

We're in agreement. We want at least 1 more. After that we'll see, but I am kind of holding out for a third.

We're also very "que sera" and I kind of get a kick out of the fact we haven't used protection since getting married ....I wanna see how long we can go. So far bfing seems to have done its magic.

We are not on the same page. I would like two children and he wants to be one and done.

On the upside, we still have 7 weeks before our first arrives and we are both aware that our viewpoints could change. I wouldn't be heartbroken with only one, and maybe after LO arrives I won't want a second! On the same note, DH is fairly firm on only having one but isn't closed off to having a second after LO arrives. I suppose we will play it by ear!

even though you're not in agreement (yet), like you said, that's great that he knows how you feel now and didn't soundly reject the idea.

our LO is 4 months old and i think we still feel like it's too soon to talk about things seriously. we made a joke about having a second one just yesterday and i pretended to cry.

DH and I are on the fence in agreement. We never disagree on number. We know we want more than one, and we would both easily have a huge family, but I don't think the funds are there. But what we don't agree on is timing. He's WAY more logical, and he wants to wait for us to be more financially stable....i get it.....BUT my hormones are going CrAzY and I want a baby now!! LOL

I always wanted 3+. He definitely wanted 2 and was open to 3, especially if we had boys first (he always wanted a girl). We originally thought we'd have them close together; however, our relationship hasn't been real strong lately and my husband has been having problems with his mood... so I'm not sure about #2. I'll be 35 this month, so not a lot of time to wait. Hopefully the answer will be clear in another year or so.

ETA: I'm glad you were able to put it out there and at least let him know where you stand. I think there's a decent chance he'll change his mind, but it's good you're be okay with things if he doesn't.

We've changed our minds a lot but I think we're settled now and we agree. We originally wanted two, three if we had two of the same gender. Then, after LO was born, we both thought we'd just stick with one. Now we both agree that, when the time is right, we're going to have one more and stop at two.

We're not totally in agreement. DH would love two but says only one for now until he can tell whether having #2 financially is a good idea. I would like 2.

@Mrs. Champagne: Same here! I really want to start TTC right now but DH want to wait first for me to lose the weight the Dr. recommended, get to our ideal financial situation and enjoy more time as newlyweds.

We're younger (24) so I get that we can/should wait but I'm soooo ready start a family. I'd sacrifice all the movies, going to dinners and traveling for a baby.

We definitely want more, but are both undecided about when. Pros and cons to waiting (can work more on house) and having another soon (house waits but can get done sooner).