LO has pneumonia and can't go to daycare for a bit. DH's schedule is a little weird this week and he doesn't work until Saturday so he is watching her.
My MIL found out about this and yelled at us...."DH is not the mother, you need to step up and take care of your child." Sooo annoying. DH told her he is capable of taking care of LO and we left soon after that.
pomegranate / 3314 posts
Ugh, what a beast! As if it's any of her business anyway. Thankfully your husband stood up to her and told her what's up.
GOLD / cantaloupe / 6581 posts
Whoa. Totally unacceptable. I'd be so completely livid at that. I fully expect my DH to take care of LO when I can't, and that doesn't make me (or you) any less of a mother.
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Also, pneumonia?? Poor thing :((
pineapple / 12793 posts
Wow! Just wow.
Good for your DH stepping up and taking care of his child. 
What a pill his mom is though.
honeydew / 7589 posts
Um... he's still a parent. That really bothers me. I hate these ingrained gender roles that so many people still have.
Either parent can parent their child - the gender makes no difference.
To me this is just like when people say things like "Oh, is Daddy babysitting?" No. He's parenting. It's not called babysitting when it's your own child.
I would be pissed.
cantaloupe / 6800 posts
Um, what. I would not have responded calmly to my MIL telling me to "step up and be the mother". DH is E's father, yes? So he is very much allowed to take care of her. Why on Earth would you both stay home, when DH is already at home and capable?
Ooohh, that just annoyed me and i'm not even in your shoes lol!
pomegranate / 3604 posts
LOL. how lovely.
My mom keeps asking why DH doesn't get a second job. Uh, he has one? It's called being a father.
GOLD / watermelon / 14076 posts
Wow, that is really annoying. The weirdest part is it's not your mother saying this, it's his! So she's basically saying her son is incapable of taking care of his child alone.
persimmon / 1150 posts
What! Just because he's not the mother doesn't mean he's not a parent! You would think a mother would think her son is perfectly capable of taking care of his Child!
hostess / wonderful watermelon / 39513 posts
@meredithNYC: He was pretty calm and apologized to me about it when we got in our car. He knew I was already feeling bad about LO being sick and didn't want his mom to upset me even further. He didn't really take offense to it....he knows his mom is old fashioned and it rolls off his back.
GOLD / wonderful coconut / 33402 posts
He is the Dad! I hate when people think the Mom has to do everything.
wonderful cherry / 21504 posts
@Arden: "To me this is just like when people say things like "Oh, is Daddy babysitting?" No. He's parenting. It's not called babysitting when it's your own child."
YES! I can't stand that! Babysitting is what an aunt or uncle or grandparent does. Parenting is what a mother or father does. Yes, I'll be the primary caregiver since I will be a SAHM, but the times when he is alone with LO, it will just be father-child time, not babysitting.
@autumnlove: How annoying! It's good that your DH didn't take that attitude to heart growing up and doesn't see it that way, even if his mom does.
bananas / 9227 posts
Seriously, that lady needs to understand she has to play nice if she doesn't want to die lonely and alone.
hostess / wonderful persimmon / 25556 posts
Holy moly. I would have been really upset if my MIL said this about my husband. Sure he doesn't have magical boobs, but that's what bottles are for! Daddy's are just as good as Mommy. Sometimes Mommy has to work!!!
bananas / 9227 posts
Argh, sorry, that came out harsh. But she has to understand that if she's unpleasant, no one would want to be in her company (for long).
pomegranate / 3383 posts
Wow. That would really piss me off!! It's great that your DH said something!
grapefruit / 4669 posts
How rude! He is just as much a parent as you are. 
I'm sorry she was such a jerk about this to you.
wonderful olive / 19353 posts
Holy cow dude!! It's just temporary, sheesh! Even if he was the SAHD, what's wrong with that?! Times have changed, and women are just as accomplished as men. Hubby has already called dibs on being a SAHD for when we have kids. When I told him he had the opportunity to be a SAHH(husband) for awhile so now I want to be a SAHM when the time comes, and he said no. He's going to be the SAH parent. LOL!!!
grapefruit / 4049 posts
omg, so sorry she said this to you. I would be livid.... that would be hard for me to shake off. old-fashioned in-laws... augh!!!
pear / 1672 posts
Whoa....so the only proper caregivers are women? I can't...I just can't... **shaking my head**
eggplant / 11824 posts
someone needs to tell your MIL it is 2012, not 1950
My blood would have been boiling!
cantaloupe / 6610 posts
@autumnlove: I cannot get over how abusive your ILs are to you sometimes!!!! It makes my jaw drop! I am so sorry! I know culture plays a role, but I just cannot believe it!
GOLD / papaya / 10166 posts
@autumnlove: Excuse me???? I'm pissed off for you! I don't even have any words to say how that would make me feel. I'm so sorry you have to deal with that
GOLD / wonderful coffee bean / 18478 posts
That is one old-fashioned lady ... ugh, sorry about that.
hostess / wonderful watermelon / 39513 posts
Thanks guys. She always complains about how her MIL was to her when she was a young mom....so it makes me worried I will turn into her.
pineapple / 12053 posts
yikes. i would be pissed and my husband would be even more pissed. i think it's so weird when i hear people say: oh, dad is babysitting today! um, isn't it YOUR child?!
pomelo / 5093 posts
@Arden: Yes, exactly this. I despise hearing about fathers 'babysitting'. My husband does not baby sit, he parents. He'd be exactly as capable of taking care of our baby when she's sick as I would. I'm lucky to have a family that knows that and that doesn't buy into bs outdated gender roles.
squash / 13199 posts
Wow, is it only the mother that should take care of the child? She doesnt sound nice
hostess / wonderful watermelon / 39513 posts
@chopsuey119: I was bummed because she has been cool lately! Guess I can't expect her to change!
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