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@oliviaoblivia: Wow. Just wow. Like PP said ... I don't know your DH and don't how how bad it was, but it seems a little short-sighted and a LOT disrespectful that he made this HUGE decision unilaterally. Many, many hugs. I hope you're able to talk to him about it, make sure he knows how you feel, and get a game plan together for going forward. Sincerely hope there are a lot of jobs in his industry -- I've been looking for months and nada
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I'm still in shock. I can't imagine EVER quitting my job without talking to him about it ahead of time. Especially right now. I feel like he has jeopardized so much for us so carelessly.
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Holy crap. My thoughts on this have already been voiced, and obviously you feel the same way. I just hope he can get another job immediately and really buckles down to get one, even if it means flipping burgers in the meantime. Because what he did was totally, 100%, unbelievably not cool. My job has sucked before, too, but I could never do that to my family. Does he do something that is readily employable at least? There *is* a lot of holiday type of temporary work coming up soon
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@blackbird: He works in real estate and the job market is ok right now, but not great. I still don't get the urgency feeling from him. We have quite a bit in savings and will be ok for a while without him working but we certainly won't be buying a house in the spring anymore.
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i am SO sorry...it must have been really bad for him to make such a rash decision! and i'm so sorry that he did make such a rash decision...i would have been furious!
i hope he finds a new job quickly and that things work out.!
hugs!!!
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Urgency or not, it is still unacceptable to blindside you. You don't need this kind of stress and upheaval so close to having the baby. Maybe he is still processing it, too? Sounds like it was a very rash decision. Even if he can't get a job in his field right away, he should look for something. I doubt he will be eligible for unemployment
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Wow. I can't imagine DH doing something like that. I'm sorry you're dealing with this unnecessary stress.
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That is tough - hang in there!! Try to stay calm, I'm sure once DH fully realizes what he's done he'll do enough stressing for the both of you!
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Oh wow. I'm sorry, lady.
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I'm so sorry.
Doing something like this without a discussion and getting your spouse's buy-in is not okay when you are married. Hopefully your DH realizes this, apologizes, and hustles to make his mistake right by getting a new job quickly.
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Wow, I would be upset too! :(((( Hopefully he'll be able to find another job before you have your baby. Try not to stress too much about it. Hang in there!
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@oliviaoblivia: my husband would do the same thing & has in the past (before DS was even a thought, but still). It's frustrating and infuriating, but he has always made it work and was able to find something better in no time. I hope you have the same outcome! *hugs*
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I dunno, sounds like something I might have done, especially when I was in a bad situation with a woman at work who wasn't my boss but was the PM on a project I was tasked with. I was literally on the verge of a breakdown, but I took a vacation first.
Good luck to you.
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@oliviaoblivia: How's it going? Have you and your husband had a chance to talk at all? I hope all is well with you!
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I am so sorry to hear this and hope you're both doing OK. I have been through a few job "situations" with my husband and I can truly understand some of the anxiety and worry that you must be dealing with. Sometimes when a work environment is that bad, it's actually better to extricate oneself... your husband might be happier and healthier (for you and for the baby) now that he's no longer there.
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@Adira: things are better, thanks!
We've talked a ton this weekend and he apologized immediately on Friday night about not talking about things with me before. He reached a breaking point when he realized that the new boss was being horrible because he was trying to screw their investors. DH has been in touch with the investors and it looks like something may work out in the long run. I'm feeling better about him not working especially given the questionable ethics of his boss. We have enough security financially to be fine for a few years if he doesn't find anything immediately. Hopefully something comes along quickly, I much prefer our lifestyle with two incomes.
Thanks for all your help and concern ladies (and Mr. Bee). I was having such a difficult time on Friday and made it through the day because of you. Thanks HB fam!
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@oliviaoblivia: Hey buddy, I just saw this thread now and I'm so sorry you had to go through this this weekend! Thanksgiving of all weekends! I really do hope everything turns out. Your hubs boss sounds pretty sketchy. HUUUUGS!
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There could be a silver lining in this. He may be able to find something ( maybe even better) before baby comes so that you can take your mat leave stress free
hang in there!
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@oliviaoblivia: Sooooo glad to hear that he apologized to you immediately and that you've had a chance to talk about it! It's definitely sketchy that his boss was being so unethical, and it may be better in the long run that your husband got out quickly before anything bad came of it! The last thing you'd want is for him to be involved in the unethical behavior going on at his company! I hope he's able to find something new soon and everything works out for the best! *hug*
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Yikes! Hope he finds something (and it sounds like he was doing the right thing in the end) but man would I have been mad!
hang in there!
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