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Sorry an international 2 week trip sans family would not fly. I would not leave my family for 2 weeks for any reason. I get every family is different but it would burn too much vacation time and money. Unless it was some kind of lifelong dream like fishing in Alaska I would not want to go on- then even then 4 nights I think would be my max. That said DH travels for work and I solo parent a lot.

Are the other guys married/with kids?

ETA guys trips are not common but they do happen for bachelor parties. He has expressed interest in a guys golf trip 4 hours away for a long weekend- I'm in support of that.

This would never happen at our house, but I'm not sure why your husband can't go for part of the trip? Like he can't meet them somewhere and leave early? Why he gotta go for 14 days??

I would never. My husband has been on multi day trips with friends, and I plan to do the same this summer. But 14 days? That is so above and beyond.

I would be upset if my husband wanted to do this. Partly because he doesn't no like going on trips very much so I'd be jealous that he wasn't going away with me for two weeks!! That just seems like A really long time for a "guys' trip!" My DH goes away on a golf weekend every May long weekend. That seems more reasonable to me. I also go to the cottage with both our moms who help me with the kids that weekend. Win win!

To each family, their own thing.

That said, my husband and I enjoy traveling, and I would probably be hurt and somewhat offended that he would spend so much time and money away from us on a trip that I would be very interested in going on. I would be ok with a 4-5 day guy's leisure trip, but I would not be ok with 14 days.

I agree with @lamariniere: 100%!

14 days is such a looong time! There's no way that would fly.

To be fair though, DH doesn't have any super close friends or family that he would want to spend that much time with nor able to spare that kind of vacation time, so that colors my response. When I think of guy's trip I think 2-3 nights for a specific event (concert/ game) and even 4-5 nights is pushing it.

I would straight up divorce my husband if he left me with our two small children for two weeks while he had a guys trip. That's just not how our relationship works. I WOH and life is difficult enough with both of us.

I would not be okay with 14 days...and I don't think my husband would be okay if I picked up and left him and our son at home for 14 days.

The problem I see is in saying no. Does he need permission? In my view, no, but I know both my husband and I would be more annoyed if one prohibited the other from doing something.

I would leave the choice to my husband but I would lay out what it would mean at home while he was gone and then ask him if he felt that he could do the exact same thing for me.

I have to agree with the previous posters. I'd be upset my husband wanted to be away from his family that long. A two week trip anywhere needs to be a family trip.

I think he can go for a shorter time. He might have to figure out logistics with the road trip but bc there's so many good flight deals I've had friends that have gone just for 4 days and had fun in Iceland.

I would be pissed if my husband even ASKED me if he could do this. This sounds INSANE to me!

While obviously each family needs to do what works for them, it doesn't really sound like this is going to work for you. A guys' trip to me is maybe 5 days TOPS and staying in the country. There's absolutely no way my husband is leaving the country to go on some international trip with his friends for TWO WEEKS and leave me at home! And he'd never ask me either. I know he'd hate being stuck at home for two weeks with the kids and no help, so there's no way he'd ask me to do that.

@lamariniere: Agree! I would be mostly upset that I get stuck doing the work while he gets to go have fun!

I understand breaks but for us, even 2-3 days is a long time to be away. I would 100% tell him no way to 14 days, that wasn't what was discussed. He can figure it out to do it in 10 days or under or not go.

@Corduroy: I SAH and I agree, if still be pissed. I'd be ranting and tell him that while he's gone he better be planning an amazing trip for me to go on! lol your feelings are not unreasonable

Neither dh nor I would ever think 14 days for a fun trip when we have kids this small was acceptable! I went on a week long work trip overseas last year and that felt like forever and was difficult for dh to manage, and that was for work. if the kids were older and more independent maybe, but that just seems crazy to me at this stage

Just reading the title and first line I was about to say "yeah sure of course. I go on more girl trips than DH does so I don't mind at all if he does". Then I saw 7-10 days and was like "yeah, no." Then I saw 14 days and was like "helllllllll no".

That is legitimately an insane request and I'm pretty laid back and supportive about our time with friends and getting time away. I go on 3-4 long weekends away each year with friends or my mom/sister, but I can't imagine either of us going for that long. I am trying to get my husband to go to Vegas for a long weekend with friends because he deserves/needs it. But more than like 5 days? Pass.

I think if flight and everything isn't already purchased this is a totally acceptable thing to say "no" to. And I don't like telling a grown man no. But this is I think an exception.

Does he agree that this is a huge ask of you but he is like begging and really wants to go? Or does he think this is like NBD?
I truly can't imagine my husband even asking this and he isn't like a super empathetic person.

What if you asked to go away for 2 weeks. Would he be ok with that? Mine wouldn't. And he encourages me to go away and have down time - but again, like 5 days max.

ETA: I SAH and to me that doesn't make a difference. That's like 24 hour solo care for 2 weeks - and not because of a work trip where we have no choice? Nooooope.

I wouldn't be okay with this either. DH want's to go on a couple hunting trips which I 'would' be fine with but I tell him he needs to take ME on a trip first, considering even our honeymoon was only a 3 hour drive away.

14 days would be too long for me, and him too. I don't think he would want to be away from me/our kids that long.
And what IF something happened? And he's across the ocean, not just a short flight away. That alone would make me/him too nervous!

@Corduroy: My husband and I went to Iceland in September and did the trip around the island. We did it in 11 days, but that's pretty much the minimum to get around the island with your sanity in tact.
And no, it would be impossible for him to do a shorter trip than them. If the group is half way around the island, he would have to rent his own car and drive several days straight (and driving conditions are rough) just to get back to the airport. So I understand how it's either he goes for the whole time, or not at all.
By the way, flights are cheap, but it's one of the most expensive countries to visit. Lodging, food, drink, has, etc. are unbelievably expensive. I'm sure they know that, but in case the don't they should really look into the reality of it.

I went on a 12-day trip with my sister to the Middle East last year, so I'm not going to jump on the bandwagon of "no long trips without the family." It certainly didn't mean I didn't love my kids and husband.

That said, DH had plenty of backup with a part-time nanny and his parents. He encouraged me to go; he knows how much I love traveling, and how bummed I've been to not often get the chance since having kids. He often gets to go on shorter golf trips/outings without us, and I let him go to Scotland for golf for over a week with his dad when our first son was a baby.

I might be OK with it if you had his word that you will be able to do something similar down the road with his express encouragement and support. I think I would also want to know that this is something that is ... meaningful in some way and not just a chance to blow off steam with the guys. Because yes, that can be done in a far shorter timeframe.