We are pretty sure we only want two kids. People keep asking if we will try for a boy, and we say no. They say we will change our mind...I really don't think we will, but never say never. Did you change your mind about the number of kids you wanted?
We are pretty sure we only want two kids. People keep asking if we will try for a boy, and we say no. They say we will change our mind...I really don't think we will, but never say never. Did you change your mind about the number of kids you wanted?
persimmon / 1150 posts
-We wanted 3 before we had kids.
-2 after having DD
-I wanted to be done after two but If we didn't get a boy this time I have a feeling we probably would have tried one more time. We are having a boy though so we can for sure be done!
grapefruit / 4028 posts
We always wanted at least 4, DH wants 6.
Since we started a bit later and are having a hard time conceiving, we may have to adjust to a smaller number.
GOLD / wonderful apricot / 22276 posts
@polkadots: I think we would MAYBE try again if we were guaranteed a boy, but there's just no guarantee. Not that I wouldn't be happy with another healthy girl, but I think we are content with two
honeydew / 7917 posts
Originally wanted 3. Changed my mind to being one and done after having DS1. A year later we decided on two.
pomelo / 5678 posts
Our decision won't be influenced by gender that's for sure (like those people suggest). I think two tops... or one and done... I am not sure!
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21616 posts
I'm totally open at this point because I'm unsure what I want!
persimmon / 1150 posts
@Bao: the no guarantee is the scary part! Would have been really happy with two girls but I think we will be able to put the baby making behind us for sure with one of each.
pineapple / 12793 posts
We want more!
Already wanted four, but we'll see what age, money, fertility have in store.
pineapple / 12234 posts
We originally wanted 2 or 3 but we wanted to get a feel for how having 2 was.
GOLD / wonderful olive / 19030 posts
We were both 2 to start (before DD), I'm still okay with 2 no matter what gender our next one is, DH is leaning toward 3 instead of 2 now. So we will see what happens, we were both raised in families with 3 siblings.
GOLD / wonderful apricot / 22276 posts
@Greentea: I think it's funny how people just assume we will keep having kids until we get a boy lol...unless they want to buy us a bigger house and pay for the raising of these said children, no thanks!
pomegranate / 3113 posts
Early in our marriage, DH and I had agreed on two, but now that DD is here, we're contemplating maybe being one and done. We've got a couple years to make that decision, though.
papaya / 10473 posts
I waffle between one and done, two, or three depending on how much sleep I've had.
DH is adamant that DS isn't an only child, but doesn't want three!
GOLD / wonderful pea / 17697 posts
Before we got pregnant with E we wanted two. During that pregnancy and in the early months we changed our minds and decided we just wanted one. Now I'm back to wanting two (I think) and D still just wants one*. We've just tabled the conversation for now.
*Unless I could guarantee that LO #2 would be a girl, then he'd be all over me
cantaloupe / 6869 posts
Our plan was always to have at least two with room for conversation on a third. We are probably leaning towards sticking with two. But we'll see.
pomelo / 5678 posts
@grizz: me too! sometimes I love the thought of one and done but pretty sure I want to have another then I'm like "please no!" the next day... then other days I want as many...
pomegranate / 3917 posts
Gender is not an influencing factor for us. I originally wanted two, DH 3, then we had DD and now want 3 or 4, I started a thread on "how do you know when you are done" after seeing this, because I have no idea how we will know 3 is it, or 4 is, or more (?!!). Fertility and awful things not being included here, if everything were to "go as planned"
GOLD / pomegranate / 3688 posts
Before kids, we agree that we wanted 2 with the option for 3. Now that we have DD, I think we are both leaning heavily towards 3.
(sidenote: gender does play a role for me. We have a girl. If we have a boy next I'd probably think the same way I do now, but if we have another girl I will likely push for a third. Not because I'd want to try for a boy, but I think 2 girl families can have a lot of competition and drama - I'd like a third, regardless of gender, to round things out.)
GOLD / watermelon / 14076 posts
Before having DD I wanted two. Now I am leaning towards having just her. I love the thought of being able to devote all of my time to her. We'll be able to go on vacations and do a lot of things that probably wouldn't be possible if we have another.
coconut / 8861 posts
I've always wanted two. DH feels the same way. At times, both of us waiver about another one. For me, it's the wavering on the timeline of another one.
I'd love to have a girl, but am totally fine with another boy. I was looking at our stack of baby clothes. If we have a girl, she'll be rocking some heather gray pants and more boyish outfits because we have quite the stash and silly to not use it again.
honeydew / 7488 posts
I always wanted only two. Now with two, I emotionally want a 3rd, but realistically I don't think that would be healthy for my marriage or my mental health. So we're done.
grapefruit / 4187 posts
I always used to think 3 would be perfect until I had DS. Now I totally understand why having less kids can be better in a lot of ways. I still don't think I want just one, but I can't really imagine having more than 2!
grapefruit / 4663 posts
@Bao: this. If I was guaranteed my next would be a girl I'd definitely have another. At this point we are happy with 1 but maybe we'll change our minds once he's sleeping more soundly.
coconut / 8861 posts
@lawbee11: Yeah, this is the same thought I have at times. Then, I see a pregnant woman's bump and miss mine. I'd love to be pregnant once more and be done.
coconut / 8861 posts
@Modern Daisy: I see my brother deal with twin boys and a girl. Three feels like a ton of work. Two seems more manageable than three.
GOLD / squash / 13576 posts
Before having LO, DH wanted 3 and I wanted 2. Now I want 3 and he wants 2.
blogger / eggplant / 11551 posts
We both wanted 3 when we got married, but now I am happy with two. DH says we should still keep an open mind because maybe a few years down the line we'll change our mind once our 2nd is completely out of the baby stage. I guess never say never, but I'm so happy with our family of 4. I think 3 might pull us too thin even though the idea of a larger family does sound appealing in some ways.
nectarine / 2886 posts
Yes! I used to want 3, DH wanted 2. DH still wants 2, but I'm good with 1. We'll see what happens
pear / 1743 posts
A little. We used to be two, maybe three if we had two of the same. Given how difficult I have found this pregnancy and our desire to have finished with adding to our family in our early 30s, we're definitely sticking with two.
hostess / wonderful honeydew / 32460 posts
We wanted 0, then 4, 3 and now we're done with 2!!
pomegranate / 3393 posts
Gender definitely doesn't enter into the equation for us. We waffled between 0 and 1 for the longest time. Now that we've had one, we're so so smitten that we're surprising ourselves by entertaining the thought of 2. (I even fantasize about what 3-4 would be like, but our ages, financial situation, and lifestyle definitely wouldn't allow for that). Now our problem is that we want at least 3-4 years between kids, but I'm 34 and my husband is 45, so it's really tight.
Tl;dr 0 -> 1 -> 2
pomelo / 5093 posts
I wanted many, but then I turned out to be really infertile. Then I had my daughter. She, like her father, has very low, very late shifted sleep needs. That fact alone makes me want to be one and done.
cantaloupe / 6687 posts
@lawbee11: same! I always wanted 2 but after having LO I had zero desire for another baby...I was just so happy with her and just wanted to focus on her. Now she's 25 months and we're TTC for baby #2. I would love for her to have a sibling especially when she's an adult...I really hope they are close
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