We didn't but my engaged friend and her fiancé are currently taking a few classes!
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We did around 4 sessions with the minister who married us, which is what he requires in order to be the officiant. Wasn't super in depth, just talked about Bible passages and some other stuff.
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My friends did too. I'm so glad they did because although they are a GREAT couple on their own, her family is kind of...hard to deal with?
Basically, the counselor had them understand that her family is difficult and may be detrimental to their relationship. So, the counselor helped them set boundaries between themselves and her side of the family. My friend and her husband are TTC now and I am so, so glad that they have a "healthy" relationship with her side of the family. Her family was way too involved and very poisonous. Hell, they even drive me crazy and i'm just the friend! -
No, but we purchased a couple of the things-to-ask/consider-before-you-marry books and completed the exercises and questions. We were brutally honest and forthright, which I think has helped us to simply talk through disagreements now. I even admitted that I would not want to be a caregiver for one of his elderly parents. Can you say selfish?
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Yes, my DH and I took a pre marital counseling course with the pastor that married US. It wad required, but really learned a lot of communication skills through it. It was pretty in depth. About 6 classes I think.
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Just through the church! It was a weekend thing. I thought it was really interesting
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Nope, none.
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Yep. We used the book Preparing for Marriage with our pastor over 8 weeks. The worksheets were great & I suggest them to ALL engaged couples. Most of the things covered we already knew & were practicing but it was nice to still go through them and not just get a "You guys already know this stuff". Marriage is tough so any prep was/is more than welcomed.
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Yes! Our church runs marriage preparation classes, based on a course formed from the same church who created the Alpha course. It was really useful - we covered 5 topics over 5 weeks, including conflict resolution, communication and 'keeping love alive'. We enjoyed it so much that we actually volunteered this year to help run the course for other engaged couples.
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Yep! Loved it!
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We didn't, but in TX if you take pre-marital classes, you get your marriage license for free! Otherwise, it's like $70 something.
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Yes, we took pre marital classes and also have done couples counseling. It really helped us learn to communicate. DH comes from a family of poor communicators.
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Yep! My cousin's husband is a pastor and wouldn't marry us without it. We had to take an online test, then he got the results and we discussed it over sessions. The state of GA requires 6 hours of counseling to get a discount on the license. So we did one hour together, each had one separate, then another hour together. We didn't really talk each time for an hour. The last session was really planning the ceremony. We did really well on the tests so he didn't have a lot to discuss with us.
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Nope, we figured after all the crap we'd been through together, if we weren't going to work out, we wouldn't have by then! Plus, we went to Vegas, not a whole lot of church prep classes there
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We didn't.
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Just a few basic classes at our church
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Yes. We found a Christian counseling group and attended about 10 sessions with a professional counselor. My husband had done pre-marital counseling with his first wife with their pastor at the time and he felt, looking back, that if he'd gone to a professional counselor some of the red flags he should have seen would have likely risen with professional counseling that the church isn't always equipped to address.
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@pelikila: I can relate to your DH's feelings! That was a big reason why I wanted some kind of structured counsel & not just talking with the pastor. I wanted both of us to be challenged and really get into the nitty gritty so later we wouldn't be like "This isn't what I was expecting...."
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Nope. We did sit down with our family friend who married us and talk over a few beers...does that count?
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Yes, my insurance covered it except for copays, so we thought, why not? I think we did 4 - 5 sessions with a family counselor.
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We were required to take 3-4 classes with our minister, in order to get married.
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No. Our rabbi had us meet with him a couple of times, but it was just to talk and make sure that he felt comfortable marrying us, not counseling.
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The pastor who married us required it. We also took a one-day pre-marital course that focused a lot on communication. I really enjoyed both.
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We did and it was stupid.
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We did a group thing through our church that was two full days. It was awesome! Our church is very liberal and the content was based on the evidence-based book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. It was really fun.
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