This can be such a tricky thing... as a parent you want to be supportive, but it's also hard to watch your kids make a mistake.
Did you ever date someone your parents didn't like? How did your parents handle it?
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My mom didn't like DH for a bit while we were dating. She got over it though, and now she loves him!
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@lilteacherbee: Go DH!! What changed her mind?
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My parents are in a different category, and we never introduced a boyfriend to them (only fiancé). When I told them I was engaged, they told me I could do better and not to settle. They didn't even meet him yet! A year later, and they changed their minds.
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Oh yeah...I made some poor dating choices over the years
my HS boyfriend was out of school and a mechanic. My dad was not impressed. When we broke up my dad said 'oh darn...aren't you do for an oil change?' 
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Yes. They hid it fairly well until he asked them for my hand in marriage and they flipped.
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When I was 19 I dated a 32-year-old tattoo artist. So, yeah.
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@rahlyrah: how many tattoos did you walk away with?
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Oh yeah for sure...I was 19 and thought he was the greatest thing in the world. It took me a loooooong time to wake up and see what my parents saw in him!
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My parents didn't want me dating at all anyway lol. They were def concerned about this one guy I dated for a while but they didn't say anything. I knew they were overjoyed when we ended tho!
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Yep! They just kept reminding me why he wasn't good for me
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Oh yes. We even moved in together. When I wasn't happy, they offered to cover his half of expenses if he moved out
overall they were very good about it and were always gracious to him & respected my choices.
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Yes, I was 18-19. They were so disapproving though that it pushed me away from them. There definitely has to be that fine line between letting your child know you don't approve, but still allowing them to trust you. I never opened up to my mom about my dating life as a result of how she handled things, and that was really hard.
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They weren't on board with DH at first. All for superficial reasons like money and appearances. They've since changed their minds!
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My parents have always been supportive, but I know they don't really like DH because he has very different political and religious views than they do.
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@mrbee: Lots of time
We started dating as teenagers and when she found out we DTD at 17/18, it was not pretty.
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@mrbee: 4. Sigh.
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They didn't like a boy I dated in high school. But they didn't tell me until we had broken up.
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Multiple times! My mom was to the point of being evilly blundt about her dislike of my choices. Sometimes she was right but she hated DH because of his age and didn't start liking him until after we were married. It was hard but I knew he was the right man for me so I just took her criticism until she could see the truth.
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I dated a few people my parents wouldn't have approved of in high school, mostly secretly. My high school boyfriend allowed me to date girls on the side, so that was a double no-no.
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Yup. My first "boyfriend" they weren't a fan of and the one previous to DH they hated. But they let me make my own choices and mistakes and were actually really good about it.
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I think they liked all. They tend to accept before they suspect.
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Yes - only they never told me. I wish they would have.
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Yes, my DH and now they love him.
Just because a parent is against a relationship doesn't mean they are always in the right.
my HS boyfriend was out of school and a mechanic. My dad was not impressed. When we broke up my dad said 'oh darn...aren't you do for an oil change?' 
overall they were very good about it and were always gracious to him & respected my choices.
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