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@GooglyEyes: Yesterday, as a matter of fact. I am 20 weeks this week and I had a full on panic attack yesterday about not being able to do it all, i.e., work, raise a baby, maintain any semblance of sanity, . . . it was quite a list. It seems to come in waves - the confidence and the paranoia. It doesn't help that I--probably like so many of the posters here--feel the need to do it all *perfectly* and without skipping a beat. Talk about unrealistic! I am really trying to work on my mental flexibility (allowing myself to not be perfect all the time), slow down when I need to (because I really need to, for mine and butterbean's sakes) and accept that things are (and will remain) different now.

Just know you're not alone. And for the record, I also freaked out yesterday when I read that my baby girl already has a uterus and 7 million eggs . . . I mean, c'mon already, she hasn't even taken her first steps yet!

I don't really remember at what point I had a freakout, but I admit I had a total mommy meltdown: Was I going to be a good mom? Can I handle this? Am I SERIOUSLY about to be responsible for another life? WTF was I thinking when I said I wanted to have kids?!

I think it's a normal and natural response to such a life changing event.

It really surprised me how natural parenting came for us, though, We had a lot to learn, but we learned together -- having a support system is key, I think.

You'll be great!!!

I had freakout all the way through. Even though I wanted to have a family, I still would question if I was really prepared for everything involved. How was I going to raise and be responsible for this child??

But those thoughts are completely normal - just take it one thing at a time. You'll be a wonderful mother - just keep telling yourself that, and take it one day at a time

@googly-eyes: Aww, you're gonna be a great mom! And... I think everyone freaks out at the end, isn't it part of the deal?

@PASTEMOO: I hear ya! I'm 36th weeks as and have been have been freaking out since my doctor tells me "It's getting close. 36 weeks! Baby can come anytime now!"