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I don't usually like asking anyone for help if it's something I can handle on my own. But when it came to pregnancy and parenting, I took all the help I could get because this isn't the time to assert your independence. For your sake and for your baby's sake, it's just better to get as much help as possible.

Be very careful of that independence lark at this time.
My SIL came home from hosp last August with baby, after a difficult long labour followed by an emergency section. We had to nearly tie her to the bed to get the rest she was ordered to have. Her DH was doing fine minding the older kids, on top of the housework etc, but she was mad to help him. What she couldn't see was, while she stayed in bed he could relax and get on with the chores etc, without having to worry about her. When she got up and started trying to do stuff, he couldn't get anything done because he was terrified she'd collapse and burst stitches or god knows what, so not only was she delaying her recovery to do stuff he was perfectly able and willing to do, she was terrifying him as well!
The moral of the story is, let him help you- if you yell in pain rather than warn him you'll need help to the bathroom in a couple minutes, he's probably half expecting to find you on the floor! Lecture over:)

@Ms.SK: I'm 21 weeks TOMORROW! hurrah! almost due date twins. Except mine's not twins. !! congrats.

The only thing I will say to your question is... let it go!!! You will have to anyway once the babies come or at some point along the pregnancy, so why not start now, as soon as you've recognized the need? It's only going to get tougher and you will only be more tired and uncomfortable as you go. I know it's tough (I'm an independent chick too) but you will see with every time you ask your hubby for help, how much closer it brings you and how much your trust in him will grow. I look back so fondly of the times Rob Sr. would put my shoes and socks on for me every single time we left the house. He also trimmed me down-there (TMI) before I was due because I wanted to be neat for the delivery. Yes, I cringe at all of that, but I also am so thankful that I could depend on him for those things that I literally could not physically do myself.