I made this promise to Bee years ago and now I can't die before she does! Not sure how I'm gonna fulfill this promise though... I guess I just need to be really healthy?
Did you make your SO promise not to die first?
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YEP!!!! I definitely want to go before he does! Though I think he said something creepy like "I think that can be arranged..." Now I think he might smother me in my sleep if he thinks the end is near for him!
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Yep, he hasn't purchased life insurance yet and I have. He's NOT allowed to die first just because of this. Kidding. Sort of.
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Nope. We prefer not to even think about it. Only thing we do talk about is the paper work that we still need to set up encase we die. We have life insurance but nothing else...
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i haven't made him promise that because being a man, he'll probably die first (since women usually outlive men)--instead i tell him thanks for abandoning me.
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Totally. If he dies first, We're going to have a very tense reunion in heaven!
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No, just the opposite. DH doesn't want to grow old. He tells me all the time he's going to kick the bucket before me. Then, haunt me so I never date or remarry.
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@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: haha that sounds like a good plan for him! Sucks for you though.. Widowed and haunted!
We've promised that we'll die at the same time, holding hands. Obviously that's a little difficult to coordinate..!! I want him to go first, though. I think I could handle the loss better than he could.
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Haha. I never made him promise.
I do tell him I need to die first though. He's stronger than I am. -
I know I just posted a rant about DH and I, but still. I would rather go first! Widowhood is bleak, and my life insurance is a pittance!
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No, I didn't. He's a few years older then me so he says he'll die first. I hate it when he says that!
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No. Life/death will happen however it's meant to.
My stepdad died two years ago and left my mum on her own. The first year was incredibly difficult, and of course there are still hard moments/days, but I've been so inspired by how my mum has bounced back and created a new and very full life for herself. I am confident I could do the same if I had to.
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Yes, he agreed to let me go first
good thing I'm older!!
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For some weird reason, I am sure that I will die first. He hates it when I say that.
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No, women in my family live a LONG healthy life (My great grandma turns 100 next week!!) & the men in his family don't. So, unfortantely if we follow in our family's footsteps I will be the one left with the unbearable heartache. And he's 6 years older. I don't like thinking about this
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Either way, I don't like thinking about this
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@mrs. wagon: I know! The man just wants me to grieve and give me grief! Lol
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Yes I told him I absolutely could not live without him so I had to die first, but I don't want that to be while I'm young.
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He says we are going to die at the same time, holding hands, Notebook style. Not sure how we will arrange that...
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I would prefer that we die together...a long, long time from now.
I did make a promise with an ex boyfriend that we would come back and haunt each other (in a nice way) so we would know if ghosts were real or not!
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We never made this promise but I did, in earnest, tell him that if I were to die first, he was free to marry someone as long as she could love our kids as her own.
I'm tearing up just typing that!
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Haha. He made me promise not to die first. I guess that means I am the stronger one.
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Nope! We argue over who is going to die first! He's younger so he thinks he will die after me. And I tell him because I'm a woman he's dying before me. Of course we are joking we can't talk about this topic seriously! Too scary to think about.
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We've talked about it because I have anxiety about something happening to him. In all 4 sets of our grandparents, the husbands have died first and I think statistically, that's usually how it goes. Just watching my grandmother deal with the recent loss of my grandfather breaks my heart.
I tell him to be healthy and safe because I want to grow old together. It makes me super sad to think about either one of us being left without the other.
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My husband is 12 years older, so I'm guessing he'll probably go way before me. Who really knows, but it is something I've kind of come to terms with. I would think something awful (like besides just growing old) would have to happen for me to go first. And neither of us like that way of thinking.
Geez, this is so morbid!
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No. We are both going to live forever.. obviously.. or go simultaneously "The Notebook" style.
If he were to go before me, I am convinced I would literally die of heart break.
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I've kind of accepted that he will go first anyway. LOL
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Ha! We've discussed that it would be better if I departed the world first. I still cry about putting my dog to sleep over a year later, so I'm pretty sure the death of my husband would do me in.
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Sure did!
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Only in the event of a zombie apocalypse. In that case, he'd better not leave me alone to fend for myself. Otherwise we'll just see what happens.
He did take out a pretty substantial life insurance policy. He joked to his brother that I'd be better off or all set if he died-- I told him I'd really preferred if he stuck around for a while and he was still worth more to me alive than dead. Aren't we romantic?
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YUP. he tells me all the time that it's not in the cards though, because he says i'm younger and healthier.
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I purposely married a younger man so that we should go about the same time! (jk... lol)
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I made HIM promise me not to die first! Its one of my greatest fears. DH always tells me that if I die first, he'll probably die shortly after.
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That is rather morbid. I've never said anything like that before.
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LOL, this is so ridiculous that I don't even know how to reply!
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He says he'll go first, that the men on his side of the family die before they reach 60... He's 35 and that's a scary thought. He says all the time that he's working as hard as he can now so that I'll be set when he dies, lovely thought babe. I want to go first.
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I made him promise that he can't die before me... until we're old. I always have a fear that he'll die before me and it makes me sad. I feel like it took forever to find my soul mate and I don't want to lose him now.. or ever!
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Given that my husband is much older than me, we pretty much know that he will die first. But I do make him promise that he won't die until very late in life. I'd love for him to see our kids get married and other really important moments, not to mention IDK how I'd get through life without him.
good thing I'm older!!
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