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I talk about it. We miscarried last July and for the first 2 or so months, I didn't want to mention it at all because I would turn into an emotional mess. Now, it's so much a part of who I am, that I find myself talking to people who I know have been through it before, like my boss. Now that I'm pregnant again, lots of people don't understand why I'm so nervous so I end up confiding in close friends.

Mine was early on so absolutely nothing in comparison to what some others have gone through. I told some friends well after the fact, however, still haven't told my family/parents (happened over a year ago) since we're still in the thick of TTC. I'm very open about our struggles when it comes up since I kinda feel people don't talk about it making it more hush hush.

I talked about it. Everyone knew because of how far along we were. They had to send an email out to all the parents at my school and EVERYONE knew. In some ways it was nice because I didn't have to keep saying it over and over again, but other times people wanted to talk about. The kids also wanted to talk about It some. They were really about it though. It did help in the fact that most knew why I was acting the way I did. Now that we are pregnant again, everyone that we've told so far has been overjoyed for us, which is really sweet.

You will find that more have gone through this and they were really supportive and that was nice.

I actually shared quite a bit. Everybody knew i was pregnant the first time because I was 12 weeks when I miscarried. I was rushed to the hospital and it was a big ordeal--DH was out of town for military training and my MIL came to take care of me. Everybody knew. The second time, only a few of my very close friends knew because I ended up miscarrying on my birthday and they were all just so sweet and supportive about it. I have the greatest IRL friends, really.

I don't mind sharing with people I know well or people whom I think would benefit from the knowledge (ie they've opened up to me in some way/shape/form) but I don't just...announce it to strangers or acquaintances or at work.

No. I didn't want to at the time and DH still doesn't want to. It's one of the things I'm iffy about even mentioning on HB, but I don't like that it is such a hush hush thing and yet so common. I still get emotional about it, but learned for even just telling a handful of family members on my side, people don't know the right thing to say and often can make me feel worse about it.

Some people, the ones who knew we had been pregnant. I shared more after I got pregnant again.

A lot know about my first one since we had announced to friends and family. Then we had to tell them all we lost the baby. That was hard. My family was supportive, but a lot of people didn't know how to respond. They acted like nothing happened and that hurt.

Not a lot know about my second miscarriage b/c it happened very early. I was already miscarrying when I found out. It was before I even got my first period post D&C and it was an accident that I got pregnant.

I do think it should be talked about more and people should be aware of it. I hate how taboo the subject is.

I have told people, I really hate that it's this hush hush topic. I told friends of mine soon after it happened, and my parents knew too.

A month ago my mom had friends of theirs over for dinner while I was visiting them and the woman asked if we had any family plans. I'm not big on lying or covering things up so I just straight up said we'd had an early loss a couple months before and that we were hoping to be successful again soon. She was like "well I had a loss before my first daughter too" and moved right on. I may have shocked everyone else at the table though, haha.

We told both sets of parents together because that was when we were planning on telling them we WERE expecting, but instead, we no longer were. I also told my BFF because I tell her EVERYTHING. I went into hiding for about 2 weeks after and the 2 other people I talk to frequently guessed it, and I confirmed when I was ready.

I also told a couple close friends about our loss (after I had come to terms with it months later) when they kept teasing us when we'd start having babies.

I did something similar. At first I didn't want anyone to know. Only immediate family knew I was pregnant, DH told them about the miscarriage and then I rarely spoke about it to them. I didn't want anybody to know because I didn't feel up to talking about it.

A couple of months later I felt more comfortable talking about it and telling people, so I told some close friends. Now that it's been years and I have LO I'm to the point where I will tell people if it happens to come up in conversation.

I'm pretty open about it when we end up talking to people about TTC - I say that it took us a year with a miscarriage in there, and am consistently surprised at how many people say "I have had one too!" It really is so common, but that doesn't make it any easier.

Right after the m/c, I actually saw a therapist b.c not many people knew and none of my close local friends were even anywhere close to TTC so they really had no idea how to deal with me. And I felt like DH got kind of tired of talking about it all the time. It helped so much, I didn't go long but it was just good to go somewhere where I didn't have to worry about what the other person was thinking, about asking them about their day, about anything but just unloading. I am so glad to this day that I did that.

I talked about it with close friends and family... in part because I needed the support and in part because I felt as though it's a topic that's not talked about but should be. I didn't feel like it should be this terrible shameful thing. I knew I hadn't done anything wrong, and in fact, I'd carried a child and loved a child (if only for 7 weeks).. I didn't want to act like it had never happened. My husband dealt with it differently though and preferred not to discuss it with anyone. I can totally understand that perspective, People grieve differently. For me though, it was theraputic to talk about it, or at least acknowledge that it had happened.