Luckily both Mr. Bee and I wanted two way before we had kids. Even if we had a second boy, we would have been done.
Did you want more? Did he? How did you compromise?
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Well DH is one of seven so guess how many he wants! Good god! I bargained him down to four. Now I've been pregnant once I'm working him down to three, ha ha,.
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No, if there's any difference, I want less!
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DH wanted more! I was willing to have 1, maybe 2 more (since I already had G) so we compromised..... After seeing Family Stone again this holiday season I decided I wanted MOOOOORE so we'll just take 1 kiddo at a time. lol
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Nope, don't think so. I'm thinking maaaaaaaaybe 4 and he'd love to have a least 5. I think he likes the idea more than anything. He's the oldest of 9 and I'm the oldest of 10, but I think I did a lot more parenting as an oldest child than he did and I've sworn that I will be done changing diapers by the time I am 30.
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DH wants more than I do... He would prefer 4-6. I was 2-3.
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He wants more than I do!
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My husband has gone from 2, max to however many I'm willing/able to make. He really fell in love with parenting, and he doesn't have to nurse them half the night when they're young. He'd happily have 10, for real.
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Husband wants one, I want a second one. I'm trying to play it cool and see if he changes his mind, but I'm super sad about the whole thing. Thinking I might go back into therapy just so I can deal with it all. (I don't want my disappointment poisoning our otherwise beautiful life)
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Pre baby, we both wanted two. Now that we have 1, he says he'd be happy to stay with just one, I'm afraid I'll want another when #2 isn't a baby anymore! lol!
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ahhaha when we first met dh had never thought about kids before (he was 23) and I have always wanted 4! He told me after 3 months of serious dating that he thought 0 or 1 kid would be nice. By the time we got married he wanted 4 too... and after we had our first, he's like 4+... 0_o!!
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My husband always said two and I said three. Now that we have two I'm not sure I can convince him of another one.
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Yes! I want 10 and he wants 3. Hopefully after our first few we can meet in the middle!
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We both wanted 3 but we r happy w 2... Ntnp for a 3rd...
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I want 3-4, he wants 2. I keep joking that means we will have 3 since he isn't going to stop doing his part. lol
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I want 2, he wants 1, and like @Mrs. Fox: I'm just playing it cool now to see if he changes his mind. No rush.
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He definitely wants at least two...I always thought I wanted two, but now that LO is here, I feel so happy with one...but sometimes I'll see a movie or program with large families and I'll tell him I want 3-4 babies! Then he says, "well, we better get started then...go get your IUD out" and I tell him to slow down b/c I'm not ready to be pregnant again (LO is almost 16 months).
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I wish somewhere in our future we could do foster care or foster to adopt but I think DH is done with four. We will see.
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I would be happy with 2, and am open to 3. He originally wanted 4-5, but I told him he's crazy and that's never happening... so I bargained him down to 3.
We may stop at 2 though... we're not sure yet.
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I originally wanted 2, then when DH and I started talking about it he said he wanted 3 or 4. I'm happy with 3, so I guess we'll see how it goes.
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Before we were married we were both wanting a large family (4 kids-ish?) but that quickly became a smaller number when I was pregnant and even smaller after we had LO. We've decided that after two, we're through!
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Since I already had ds, we've always said one more, maybe two. Now that "one more" is on it's way, we're both are saying this is it. Neither one of us want to have the third kid.
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Nope! He wanted kids way more than I did.
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DH is very much "we'll see how it goes" when it comes to family size. I waver between 1 and 3. Right now, I'm leaning strongly toward one and done. We can provide so many more benefits to one than we could 2 or 3 (like paying for college, me staying home/working part-time, etc.)
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I want more, but he's open to more if we can afford it.
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I want less than DH.
I want 1, he wants at least 2 or maybe even 4! -
He didn't want any kids, but we ended up having 2.
(PS. Now he's really happy that we have kids.)
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eh...I don't have an ideal number in mind. I'm more of a wait-and-see. DH comes from a family of 2 kids, so he wants 2. I know I want more than 1, so 2 is fine. Depending on how that goes, maybe 3?
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I always said 2 or 3, he always said 1 or 2, so we are both happy with the idea of 2 total. LO isn't here yet but that's the plan for now. I'm guessing once the second one isn't a baby anymore I could start getting pangs for another, but by then I'll also be getting a little bit older (I'll be 32 when this one is born and we want them at least a couple of years apart)
We both agree that even if we have two boys or two girls, we wouldn't try for another one just to get the other gender. I just don't care enough about having one of each, and DH doesn't want to risk having 3 girls and a house full of women when they hit teenage years
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DH wants less than i do. i think he'd be fine with one(wasn't happening!) but he's pretty set on only 2, i want 3.
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I've always wanted 4 and DH says 3 is a good number because he doesn't not want to get a new car.
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I want three, he wants two. But...wholly dependent on what we have, too. If we have a girl for #2, we'll definitely go for #3. If we have a boy for #2, we'll have one of each and #3 will be tabled, at least for a little bit. I don't want the third until one is in school! Hello daycare cost! He's not completely, adamantly against 3, though.
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No. He's already thinking about 3! I would be fine with 2, and I told him the conversation about #3 will have to wait until we can see how #2 goes!
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I always wanted 3 and he wanted 2. After having so much trouble just having S, I'll be happy if we can have 2.
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We both want two!
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I've always wanted 4 and he wants 2, so we said we'll have 2 and see where it goes from there. I think it'd be so fun to have a big family complete with loud holidays and always something going on. He is worried about money, which is my biggest concern with kids in general, so I can see his point. We will see!
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We've always followed the same general thought process as far as how many kids. Originally we both said two but we'd have three if the first two were boys. After we found out LO was a girl, we said two. After birth and until she was around six months old, we talked about only having one. Now we both want just one more and then we'll stop.
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We both want two or three, to be decided as we go. So far this first pregnancy is making me re-think how many times I want to be pregnant! But really that's less of a concern than factors like how we feel once we have two, our money situation, etc.
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@anonysquire: the middle = 6 1/2 kids?
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@mrbee: 6 kids 5 cats? Or just 65 cats? Done!
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