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Both of our parents live a plane ride away from us. At the moment the plan is to have the first week to ourselves, then have my parents come for a week and then have his parents come for a week. My parents will stay with us. It will be a game time decision whether I will let his parents stay with us or ask them to stay in the hotel down the street. Just depends on how sleep and breastfeeding and all those things are going.

My MIL has already asked off work near the due date and will be staying in our house for at least a week. She'll probably get here while I am in labor. (As for additional family from out of town - we're going to ask that they find alternate sleeping arrangements outside of our house)

She is going to be a big help and I know between her and my mom, the two of them will do a great job of taking care of the cooking/cleaning while DH and I are tending to the baby.

My mom lives close enough that she can come by during the day, but won't have to stay the night.

Inlaws didn't come visit until LO was around 2 months old. They live in TX!

My mum lives in the UK and will be flying in to help. She arrives a couple of days after my due date, so hopefully she will be around for the birth. She is staying with us for 3 weeks. My MIL is only 3 hours away and will be waiting by the phone ready to drive down at teh first sign of labour. She will stay for a couple of days. She won't actually stay in our apt though, she'll stay with BIL who lives in the same building.

My mil lives in the same area as us, she was at the birth center while I was in labor and saw lo right after she was born. She will probably be there for this one too (not in the same room of course).

I think the hotel thing is a great compromise.
My mom came up before the birth and left when LO was about 10 days old, and she stayed with us- that was perfect because she is super helpful, doesn't stress me out, and I didn't mind walking around half naked with my boobs hanging out.
My dad came in for two days after LO was born, stayed at a hotel, and made himself sparse when I was feeding LO. All also good.
My FIL came in the morning after LO was born and stayed another few days, also at a hotel. He is not super helpful, and I wasn't really comfortable nursing in front of him since I couldn't do it discreetly at that point and had to be topless. I feel bad about it, but I really wish that he'd waited a week or two to come up, or that we'd established more firm visiting hours with him... instead he ended up camping out in my living room for a few days, which made me feel like I had to hide out upstairs to nurse the baby, which in turn just made me wish he wasn't there.
If having them around stresses you out, but you still want to give them the chance to meet LO right away, I think the hotel is a good idea and I think setting visiting hours is a good idea, so that you know that they'll be there from, say, 10 AM to noon, and again from 4 to 6, but that you have that time in between to yourself.

My mil came for DD's birth and stayed with us for 4 or 5 days after. SIL also stayed a few nights. mil/fil will be coming back for the holiday weekend too. I was hesitant about a full house at first but in the end it was really nice and she spoiled us with frozen meals and housework.