My parents preferred I marry a Korean guy. Didn't happen! They LOVE DH dearly though 
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Yep. Wanted me to marry Korean and Christian!
It happened!
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@chopsuey: oh yea, christian too! I think it would've been really hard for them, if DH wasn't!
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Yes - religion-wise. Which didn't happen. At the end of the day they wanted me to be happy (my sister also did a great job breaking them in for me as her hubby is a difference race and religion)
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@mrsjyw: yeah, faith is a non-negotiable! I'm sure they would have been ok if he wasn't Korean though. Eh. P's white in korean skin.
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@chopsuey: lol d's korean in white skin.... i'm a twinkie, he's an egg!
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Nope just someone that treated me good.
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They didn't.
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Nope. If I was happy and cared for they were happy.
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@stargal: same, they wanted me to be with someone who treated me right.
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I'm sure my mom secretly wanted me to marry a Black guy or someone with brown skin, though she did say she just wanted me to be happy there were some comments that made be believe she didn't just want me to be happy, she wanted me to be happy with a Black man.
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Nope, not at all. Just someone that I loved that was good to me.
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I think my mum would have preferred my to find someone closer to home, but my whole family love hubs.
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My parents had a religious preference. But I consider myself not really religious, so it wasn't a priority for me and ended up marrying someone if a different religious. I think my family now sees it's not a big deal.
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They would have preferred Chinese but oh so happy that DH is Asian (Vietnamese). My sisters married Caucasian men, and my patents always show their disapproval.
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Absolutely not.
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Only that they were kind to me & that they made me happy. ILs had strong preferences for mr bird, unfortunately, they got none of what they were hoping for
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There wasn't ever any pressure to marry any particular race or religion. Once my husband and I were engaged practically every family member shared they all thought I would marry a white guy.
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Nope! I think they were just happy that I didn't marry my ex
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Yes, my father wanted me to marry some Philippine politican's son. We had absolutely nothing in common.
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@rahlyrah: haha, me too! I didn't think about him, lol.
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Nope! None that they expressed, anyways. After my first husband, they just wanted someone who would treat me and DS well.
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They had high expectations (smart, good looking, etc) but I didn't have any serious boyfriends before Wagon Sr so I don't really know. Lots of my cousins 10ish years older than me are married to people outside their race (they're Korean, their spouse is white) so they weren't against a non Korean.
When I told my mom about WS and all the boxes he checked off for her high standards (Korean, Christian, ivy league school, etc) she kept asking how tall he was. Hehe. As soon as she heard, she insisted he was too short (he's 5'7", I'm 5'5.5", tall for an Asian girl). She has a big complex about height (she's barely 5 feet). She refused to accept him... Til she met him. She immediately loved him and never mentioned his height again. After we got married I asked her, and she said he was so great, she knew holding on to something as superficial as height was not reasonable.
My dad loves everyone, but he judges people on their eyes. Kinda weird, but he's been kinda on the money. He said that WS's eyes are big, but taper off at the ends, meaning he is kind and warm but has a short explosive temper. Bingo!
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I'm sure they would have liked to have thrown their 2 cents in, but I never gave then the chance because it would have irritated the crud out of me. As it is, though, they loooove DH!
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I never gave them any reason to worry since all of my serious boyfriends were great guys, but they definitely lucked out with DH and clearly like him the best
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Yes, unfortunately. It just so happened to work out that I did marry a white dude, but my college wasn't exactly diverse, so.....But that being said, they didn't love him the first time they met him, either! Their discrimination runs wide and deep and included everyone with a penis
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Not racially or religion-wise (although I think they would've been surprised if I'd married someone who was devout in a religion other than Christianity… or honestly someone devout in any religion).
I do think they had an idea in mind of who I would marry and that it would be someone who was highly educated and had a big personality like me. They didn't initially see my husband as a good match, even though they liked him, because my mom said he was "a gentle soul" and I think they just saw me with someone with a few more sharp edges like me.
But 3 years post-wedding I think they have definitely come around to understand that he was the perfect person for me and that I probably needed someone a bit more "gentle" than I am
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My parents didn't give me any guidelines really except to make sure they treated me nice. However, I'm sure my parents would have rather me not marry a Christian and a conservative. Oh well, lol.
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Nope as long as he was a good guy who made me happy. I think they are happy he's a Christian & that he can talk hunting & sports with my dad!
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Not verbally, but my mom hated all the guys I dated, including husband. So I don't know.
But again, she hates everybody (including me sometimes).ETA: Oh wait. I guess she wish that I would date and marry someone who can be a slave and be very very patient and nice to HER. Because she praised other people's husbands of that trait (while she never had anything good to say about mine).
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They preferred an Asian because they thought they would understand our customs and behaviors better. I dated a few white guys and that's where that stemmed from. Maybe I just chose bad boyfriends? lol
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I think my father and stepmother had a pipe dream that I'd move back to Texas and marry a good Christian Southern boy. Instead I married an atheist Yankee
My mom just wanted someone that loved me.
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I was raised in a Christian household and am a Christian myself. While my parents never interfered with my relationships, I know they would prefer me to marry someone that share the same values. I am sure they would've wanted me to marry Chinese too so there is no cultural barrier.
Not that I wanted to please them especially, but I did end up marry Chinese & Christian!
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