Wagon Jr. did great with self-soothing. He took a pacifier beautifully, then dropped it when he found his fingers. Then he sucked on his first two fingers and self-soothed with a lovey for about a year and a half. Then he dropped sucking his fingers on his own and he now has his lovey and 3 other stuffed animals that he sleeps with.

LMW is a totally different story. She is soothed by sucking, but doesn't take a pacifier. She gets frustrated and lets it pop out. She likes to chew on toys as well but also gets frustrated and throws them away in anger. She puts her fingers in her mouth, but doesn't really suck them. She seems to like the lovey and snuggles with it.

But it seems like her self-soothing techniques are solidifying now, and they are a little scary and sad. She scratches at her ears until they are bleeding. Every morning we find new scabs mostly on and around her ears, and some on her forehead, nose, and chin. She also pulls/tugs at her hair around her ears, and she rocks her head very quickly back and forth and kicks her legs violently.

Anyone else's baby have such violent self-soothing techniques? Any insight?