In real life, I hear from a number of moms tell me that their SO's don't appreciate everything that they do... but online, people seem to feel more appreciated. Or maybe it's just my imagination?
Do you feel appreciated by your SO?
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He does, and I appreciate him. We both work hard in our own ways!
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i do! he lets me know how much he appreciates everything i do.
haha
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We both appreciate each other. We can do a better job of showing it though. =\
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I'm sure he appreciates all the things I do, because I certainly appreciate all the things he does. Like @Banana said, we could definitely do a better job of showing it though.
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Definitely! He's very good about being verbal about it too
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I know he appreciates me but sometimes it's hard for him to show appreciation.
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Yup he tells me a lot which I like hahaha
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Yes!
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He tells me he appreciates me all the time.
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YES! I'm the one that could do a better job showing my appreciation for him.
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Yes we both appreciate each other, whether or not we show it everyday I'm not sure, but I think we could get better at it. Having a LO makes for a busy day, and sometimes I think we need to take a step back and focus on each other for a minute, and express appreciation.
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Yes, he tells me all the time.
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Well I guess I'll be the odd man out and say no, I don't always feel appreciated. I work as many hours as DH and do most of the kid related chores and wish he would verbalize or show me more how much he appreciates me. I think he does appreciate me but is terrible at showing it. Also, To your point about online vs IRL, I tend to avoid commenting on this kind of topic since I hate to be a downer but if you asked me in person I could probably go into length analyzing the how and whys of it all...
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It depends how I'm feeling at the time. Most of the time I know that DH appreciates all that I do, but there are other times when I cannot help but feel that he doesn't realize how much I do.
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Honestly, most of the time I don't.
He seems to have this idea in his head that my life at home with a 5 month old is all relaxing cookies and rainbows and unicorn marshmallows.
So he's always exasperated when he gets home and dinner isn't done, or yesterday's dishes are still dirty. But then he takes it for granted when they are done, you know?
I guess that's something we have to work on
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@MaisyMay: I don't think my DH fully realizes how much exactly I do
But, he appreciates me a ton & shows it:) -
Not at all.
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My dh is very vocal with expressing his appreciation, but his actions don't show it all the time.
I think it has become routine for him to say "I appreciate you." -
@Rainbow Sprinkles: What kind of actions would make you feel appreciated?
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@mrbee: maybe taking some of my burden sometimes (cooking, putting LO to bed, etc.). Or letting me have a night off to take a break.
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@Rainbow Sprinkles: That would be nice huh!!
Do you ever ask him for a night off? Hopefully he says yes when asked point blank!!
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@mrbee: nope, I don't ask. I just keep waiting for the magic offer. But I guess that is practicing poor communication skillz on my part.
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@Rainbow Sprinkles: You should definitely ask! Or better yet, just tell him that you're taking a night off and that he's in charge of dinner/bath/bedtime!
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@mrbee: would you agree that men aren't as intuitive as women and they need to be told what to do sometimes?
Example: a women would SENSE that her husband needs a break, while the husband would need to be told flat-out that the wife needs some down time.
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@Rainbow Sprinkles: That may be true (not sure), but there are actually many signals that the more active household partner often sends to the more passive partner. Then the more passive partner often gives up.
Not sure if that dynamic applies to your household, but here are some links on it!
* http://www.time.com/time/nation/article/0,8599,1219962,00.html
* http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gatekeeper_parentI struggled with this myself, and it's a tough dynamic for both partners!
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Usually, I don't feel appreciated...but I know for the most parts I am...
haha
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