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He will usually act like he wants space, so I give it to him, and then after about two minutes he'll come find me and be like "I can't stay mad, I'm sorry!" And ask for a hug. LOL. He's bad a being mad at me.

Ugh. He says "I'm sorry" but in a voice that doesn't SOUND very sorry. More like, I'm saying I'm sorry but I really just think you are making a big deal out of something that isn't a big deal but apologizing will hopefully diffuse the situation. All I want is for him to say sorry once, sounding sincere, and say he messed up instead of blaming it on everything but him. Luckily our fights are usually about small annoyances that happen frequently enough to piss me off, but still not anything major (like, being late. All the time. And it's never *his* fault).

@Foodnerd81: This.

However, if he's been a complete ass, he sends me expensive flowers.

@avivoca: When it's something bigger, he always *says* he is going to make it up to me, but he never does anything big like sending flowers. More like he says he'll give me a massage later then keeps putting it off until I forget why he owes me, only that he does and I never got my massage. Jerk. (I kid.... kind of.)

I am always the one that needs space, DH is always the one to want to apologize and move on right away. It annoys me because some of the time I'm not done being mad!

DH is much better about apologies than I am. He does need cool off time, as do I, but he always apologizes (first) either in person or by text/call

He DOESN'T ever say sorry. He will just fix it. For example, if we argued over the fact that he throws his clothes on the floor right after I cleaned, then he will wait until the argument is over, think about it a little, and then go and clean the ENTIRE bedroom and come up to me and kiss and me an tell me how much he appreciates what I do for him. But, he never says sorry. I prefer his method though.

@.twist.: I don't know when I developed the ability, lol, but I can just sort of tell when he's not angry anymore. The tension is just gone.

And I'm with you, I like to get things sorted out to feel better and it kind of bothers me sometimes that DH needs space. A lot of times we never even fully discuss whatever we were arguing about, but since it's not often important stuff I guess it doesn't matter. It was a little hard for me to get used to, though.

@Foodnerd81: Is your husband my husband? I would of written the exact same post word for word. Haha