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I can't imagine a new puppy and a 16 month old baby! But, I guess a new baby would be even more work, or so they tell me...

I feel this way sometimes too!! How can I give up my attention and love and everything that I have focused on this little piece of perfection to another sibling. Then I see how happy she is when she plays with her cousins and I think that having a sibling just means one more person on this earth to love her and for her to love.

No, I haven't felt guilty yet. DD is 2.5 y.o. so I feel like she's received a lot of individual attention pre-sibling. I'm sure I will feel guilty when the baby is actually here, though, and I can't spend as much time with her anymore.

@BabyLove: so much of this is self inflicted guilt. Did you have a sibling growing up? I have an older sister and we are so close I hope and wish that my little girl can have a lifelong friend like I do in my sister. If I flip the guilt to selfishness in my head (it's selfish of me not to want to share her with a sibling, selfish of me to put all my parental aspirations on one kid, selfish of me to leave taking care of DH and I in our elderly years to one child) then it just makes sense to give her a brother or sister. It's all about changing your paradigm, which is easier said than done!

Honestly, no. I see the difference between my toddler (I stay at home) and my niece (full time daycare). My daughter seems to think that the world basically revolves around her. I do my best to quash that notion in her, but with limited success. A second child will be a bummer for her, but I think it'll be really good for her in the long term.

I already feel guilty for Baby #2, even though Baby #1 is still cooking in my belly! I was telling DH the other day how we'll probably never be as excited as this time around for a #2. Especially because it's the 1st for us, I'm not working or preoccupied by anything else, and it's a first grandchild for my parents, and first grand-daughter for my in-laws. I was feeling sad already at the thought that #2 won't get as much excitement. But DH also pointed out that #2 would be the last grandchild for his parents and forever be "the baby" - which is true. lol.