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@Mamaof2: my dd is having some seperation anxiety at daycare.
@Miss Ariel: I am having a little paranoia about that too since I just read an article about how a female engineer who usually babysits friend's kids was doing sexual things the children. It got me so sick and I know not everyone is like that but it just scares me to death.
We try to go on dates when we see mil and fil. I may ask my dad if he can watch dd for a day when we visit.
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We go on dates almost every weekend. We have a standing sitter for Saturday nights. I get ready while my husband entertains our son and the sitter arrives, then I do bedtime routine and put him down and we leave immediately after.
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@Miss Ariel: they have background checks and references available on there. I have done interviews as well as had the caregivers we've found start while I'm at home too. I get to know them and feel comfortable with them first. We've had some good luck finding a couple of great girls to watch our kiddos!
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My in-laws live in town, so they babysit for us regularly. I would say we go on dates about 3 times a month.
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@erinpye: I'm sure they do and it's the type of thing I would have loved to use in high school or college. But I guess like everything else, you just never really know... But really that's how it is anytime you have someone watch your kids.
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We usually go during the day when the Little Dude is at school. I don't work and my husband works from home on a super flexible schedule, so daytime dates work best for us!
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Yes, but it's not common at all. Dates for us usually mean movie and dinner/late lunch. By uncommon, I mean almost never, but we're working on upping it since she's a little older now.
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Yes, we do. It takes a lot of effort to make sure we have care for our son, but I think it's critically important to our marriage that we have time alone together. To me the cost of our nanny for those hours is an investment in our relationship. We also sometimes will grab lunch together when she's here during the day and we're both working. I was a nanny when I was younger and used to be the person who provided childcare relief for parents, and I made a vow right then and there that I would do the same for my own relationship one day. I also think it's important for my son to be used to someone else putting him to bed other than me. We don't have grandparents or aunts/uncles in town to help, so when I looked for a nanny I asked that she commit to at least two weekend evenings per month to baby-sit, which has worked out beautifully.
If your daughter has anxiety with new people, could you have a potential sitter come and do some day-time playing with her so she gets used to the sitter?
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We try for once a month. It helps that now in our hometown most of the awesome restaurants have started doing online bookings - there is never anything available in the current month but we can always get a reservation for the next month or the one after, so we make them and then we know we have a date in the schedule, and time to hire a babysitter. My MIL babysits for us when she can but she's single and has quite an active social life (A LOT more active than ours!) so she isn't always available - I have two former students who are now in university that are always happy to help. We are also having our first full night away from our son in a couple of weeks!! Woohoo!
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My husband and I have a standing lunch date, it works so well for us because we currently work across the street from each other. We also sometimes meet for an early dinner on Friday afternoon before we'd pick up our son, but now we've turned that into family movie night and it would kill my son not to have it!
We have a difficult time going for dates on the weekends, we have that working parent guilt.
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Nope! Like you, we don't have family nearby to help us watch DS. We do have friends we trust, but they're all busy doing their own stuff so I don't like to burden them unless absolutely necessary. However, when we do group dinners, my friends to help watch/entertain DS so we can actually eat eat for a bit.
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We don't have family close by, but they do come visit every couple of months and we have date nights then. We've also had a few nights out where a friend has volunteered to babysit.
For a long time DH and I carpooled and worked next door to each other so we did lunch dates during the work week while DS was in daycare. Overall we haven't felt too deprived of couple time even if it's different than pre-kids.
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DD i s 4 mo and DH & I went out alone once b/c it was his birthday! I feel like it takes a special occasion for us to leave DD... I already work all week so I treasure all other times I get with her!
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@Alivoo01: Our friends do the same. We usually try to entertain them at our place and they will play with DD while I cook and we take turns eating/monitoring her.
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