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Do you hate your SO's work schedule?

  1. Mae

    papaya / 10343 posts

    His work schedule is okay (he works 9-6ish mon-fri). But he's also in night school for his mba so he's gone until 9:30 or 10 two nights per week, then has to meet with his group for class another once or twice/week. And that annoys me.

  2. gingerbebe

    cantaloupe / 6131 posts

    I have mixed feelings about DH's schedule. He's always worked a full time job while running his own full legal practice from home, so he's rarely "off." On the one hand, its way better than it used to be (leaving at 5:30am and getting home at 8:30pm 4 days a week and then working from home 1 day a week, plus evenings and weekends for his business).

    Now he teaches at a college, so he's gone 2-3 days a week from about 9am to 730pm. Sometimes he teaches an online hybrid class, so on those nights he's lecturing from his home office until 10pm and then has to spend every other Saturday at school. It all depends - his schedule changes each semester. The other half of the time he's running his business from home. I get to SEE him a lot more than before now in that he's physically in the house more, but he's basically always in his home office. The nice part about his teaching job are the breaks. He gets like 2 months off in the winter and 4 months off in the summer, which means a lot more schedule flexibility for him (but that just means he's going full bore at his practice!)

    We'll see how all this works out once the baby gets here. DH is thinking about getting an executive MBA on TOP of all of this (it would be almost free with his college), which would give us a lot of benefits in the long run, but might drive me nuts if I'm staying at home all day with the kid.

  3. Greentea

    pomelo / 5678 posts

    @locavore_mama: currently I seriously love dh's schedule; 6-2! I am scared it is about to change bummers your dh does some late nights. That's the hardest!

  4. BlueWolverine

    pear / 1510 posts

    I'm happy with DH's schedule. He works from home for a major corporation and generally works from 9-5:30 or so. LO and I usually get home around five and have some alone time together while DH finishes up. He takes her to day care every morning.

  5. winniebee

    hostess / wonderful grape / 20803 posts

    Yeah, it's rough. He's a surgeon and has to take call. He will never, ever, ever have a 9-5 schedule. Generally, he leaves for work by 6 or 6:30 a.m. I can't predict when he will ever be home in the evening. Could be 6, could be 10 (but mostly is 6-7). When he is on call...he could get called in at any time and have to do a surgery so we can't plan anything. And he has to take call every 3rd night and every 3rd weekend basically for eternity. It's glamorous. But it's always been like this so I'm used to it.

  6. littlek

    GOLD / squash / 13576 posts

    @MamaMoose: I was thinking the same thing.. What is a 9 - 5 job? I've never had one. When I was working I worked 50 - 60 hours a week, normally. Busy season was 70 - 80 hours a week.

  7. DigAPony

    pear / 1787 posts

    YES. He works 6 days a week, anywhere from 10-12 hour days. His day off is always different and he only finds out what his day off is a few days in advance, so there is no predictability to anything. I hate his job and am eager for him to find something else.

  8. NovBaby1112

    grapefruit / 4066 posts

    Yea, it's been awful lately. He just got about 20 extra cases and is now working from about 8:3am and doesn't get home until 9pm most nights One day a week he tries to get home for dinner around 6.

  9. regberadaisy

    GOLD / wonderful pomegranate / 28905 posts

    @littlek: I know lots of people who have a "normal" 9-5 schedule and lots who don't either.

    I think my biggest issue is the lack of regular family time. I don't mind the solo bedtime dinner time as much. But because we both WOHM full time Sunday is our only day. And often there is so much that needs doing around the house it is not always quality family time. But it is what it is and it's certainly no where near as bad as some other ladies on here!

  10. namaste

    persimmon / 1313 posts

    DH has a pretty cushy schedule. WOHM Mondays and Fridays. Tuesdays-Thursdays, he goes in from about 9-4. However, he does work late after I'm in bed so he'll work from 10-?. Lately it's been 3/4 am.

  11. matador84

    papaya / 10560 posts

    Hate doesn't even begin to describe it. Work and lives out of tow. M-f. On call every other weekend so gone on weekends too. Doesn't get much worse! It kills me all the time he misses with the kids.

  12. Modern Daisy

    grapefruit / 4187 posts

    At first glance i thought this said "workout" schedule and i was like "yes!!" lol. DH wales up at 5am to go the the gym and doesnt get back until 7am. The most annoying thing about it is that he usually wakes up LO while getting ready so I am woken up by screaming once he finally leaves.

  13. RsMom

    cherry / 233 posts

    I'm pretty lucky as we both work 8-5 Mon-Fri.

  14. littlek

    GOLD / squash / 13576 posts

    @locavore_mama: I guess it depends on industry and location, it's pretty much an impossibility in finance/actg I'm the DC area.

  15. regberadaisy

    GOLD / wonderful pomegranate / 28905 posts

    @matador84: you definitely have it the worst because you hardly hardly ever get relief!!

  16. googly-eyes

    GOLD / pomelo / 5737 posts

    He's just starting today on a 6 month loan where he's working w-sat 2pm-12am and I am really excited about it! Then he will go back to the usual find out every month what time/hours/days thing and that's ok as long as I'm at home but it sucks when I work too... Especially since the majority of the past year or so he has been on nights (6pm-6am or later.)

  17. matador84

    papaya / 10560 posts

    @locavore_mama: it really is crazy! And I have no helping family. My friends def help a lot and know I pretty much always have my kids in tow! I have to get a sitter often in order to be able to do certain things. Grrr! It's funny. I used to think solo parenting one was so hard. I think sp'ing too has been a breeze overall.

  18. googly-eyes

    GOLD / pomelo / 5737 posts

    @MamaMoose: I don't know that very many people have actual 9-5 schedules but I refer to anything that's m-f start in the am and end 8-9 scheduled hrs later in the pm as a "9-5 job."

  19. googly-eyes

    GOLD / pomelo / 5737 posts

    @matador84: that's so tough. That's what it would have even for us if we were to have moved a few months ago. One bout of daycare sickness later I was like "nope!" You are seriously amazing!

  20. Rocker2014

    persimmon / 1367 posts

    No - but DH hates mine! I theroretically leave home at 9:40am and get home around 8:15pm, but I'm on call pretty much all the time and and can get calls/emails that I have to drop everything and manage at all hours of the day/night. DH has one of those rare 9-5ish jobs and struggles with my schedule and the demands on my time. Fortunately, I'll be doing some major changes post-maternity leave, which he's pretty happy about!

  21. Silva

    cantaloupe / 6017 posts

    Yes. 12 hour shifts, weekends, overnights, and totally out of our control. Residency sucks.

  22. PurplePumps

    pomegranate / 3809 posts

    We work at the same place, have the same schedule, and carpool together so I can't complain.

  23. cyndistar3

    pomegranate / 3980 posts

    No, I love it! He works 7:30-4:30 Tuesday- Friday and then Saturday he just has to be there for 4 hours of his choice. Considering when we first got married he worked out of town Monday- Friday and was only home for the weekend, then worked graveyard after that this has been amazing!

  24. lovehoneybee

    GOLD / wonderful pea / 17697 posts

    Yes. We worked stacked schedules...I work 8:30-5, his schedule varies from 12-12/1 to 2/8-9, depending on the day/time of year. Some nights I don't see him at all, and it's a very rare occurrence that Ev sees him.

  25. matador84

    papaya / 10560 posts

    @googly-eyes: it blows. I work full time too so it was HARD at first figuring things out. Now that I have a system for everything it isn't that bad. Except when a kid is sick and/or I'm sick. In that case, it's horrible.

  26. photojane

    cantaloupe / 6164 posts

    Yes! He works for the department of transportation, and they need to be open 24/7. He works 12:30-9:30, and has to work Sundays, which means he has to leave us right after church. He's a supervisor, so he has to take calls on his off days too. I am really glad he has a job though!

  27. Sapphiresun

    nectarine / 2220 posts

    Yep. DH works 4 on, 4 off, 12 hour shifts. Two days (6am-6pm) then two graveyards (6pm-6am), and never actually gets off on time. If he wants to get a decent amount of sleep, I pretty much don't seem him from the time he goes to bed before his first shift till he wakes up on his first day off. He often has to go to court on days off, and is on three levels of on call on most of his days off. Every other month we have no days off together at all.

  28. StbHisMrs

    pomegranate / 3329 posts

    @winniebee: We have the same problem , my husband isn't a surgeon though.

    He's an engineer with the railroad and is on call always unless a vacation is approved. When he gets called to work it's a 12 hour shift out of town, then he's put up in a hotel for a minimum of 10 hours, then it's 12 hours back home + commute time of 1.5 hours. We hardly ever see him.

  29. petunia354

    pomegranate / 3863 posts

    Eh, its fine. He works 5:30 to 5 M-F and half day on Saturday. I'm happy DH has a good job and works so hard to help support our family. We definitely find time to spend as a family, even if its just an hour here or 20 minutes there.

  30. fussygal

    pomegranate / 3580 posts

    Yes, but it could be sooo much worse so I feel bad for even complaining. He works 6:00a-5:00p M-F. His job is very physically demanding so he's always tired. After he gets home he showers, eats and spends time with us, and then usually goes to bed by 9:00 so he can be up early.

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